Am I cheap?

Every summer I have a couple weddings to attend. I generally spend $25 on a gift and $1 on a gift enclosure (small card.) Wedding cards are $5 each now, since they have stupid birds and beads glued to them.

I am shocked to hear how much others spend on wedding gifts. Am I cheap?

Update:

The whole idea of “paying for your seat” at the wedding is tacky and horrible. You people are way off with that!!

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  • no. you are there to witness a union. Anything you give is up to you. $25 may not be much to some people but it may be all the the disposable income for another. Let your budget be the guide of what you spend, not other people’s opinion.

  • I’ve heard that the “traditional” thing to do is to give about what your dinner will cost. If you think about it, that makes sense because then the bride and groom are actually coming out on top, instead of in debt for the one meal they just fed everyone.

    That being said, I cannot afford 50-1 per person, being 1-2 for me and my sig. other to attend a wedding. (also, I don’t chose how much the couple is spending on the meal, so…)

    I usually give around the same as you, depending on how well I know the person I might go a little higher. I try to find something that I know they would love that is on sale. It saves me money, but they will love it, so it doesn’t matter how much it cost. However, you can’t spend moeny for something on sale that they may hate, because if they try to return it, and it’s only worth ten dollars, that’s pretty cheap.

    Like others have said, getting a gift for anyone is already going above and beyond. It’s the thought that counts and it’s nto worth going into debt over. I agree with the others that have said if you make a lot of money and you have a little extra to give, you mind as well share the wealth, but at the same time, yo’uve gotten to wear you are because of the work you’ve put into it, so you shou’dn’t be expected to give more just because you make more.

    All in all, I think somewhere between 25-1 is what most people give.

    I buy my cards mostly in the 99 cent section. I keep all the cards I get from people, but most don’t, it’s really what you write inside it that matters, not how pretty the card itself is.

  • The custom of what is an appropriate amount for a wedding gift varies greatly by region and even by group. Where I’m from, $1 per person attending is about the norm. Certainly some people give less, others give more. The point is, it’s a gift, so give whatever you give is appropriate. Any gracious recipient will accept the gift in the spirit in which it was given.

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  • TO BE HONEST, I THINK IF YOU GIVE THEM A $25 DOLLAR GIFT THEY, WILL THEY WILL MOST LIKELY DO THE SAME.

    and i think its not fair, if you gave them 25 and they end up giving you 2

    but 25 can’t u at least make 30 so it end on in a zero.

    anyway I’m 14 and $20 is what i would give my friends for a b’day gift. but the card is like 99 cents lol.

    anyway so i don;t really give presents at weddings but my parents do. they whole pay for your seat thing

    THERES 6 OF US.

    which ends up being $150 (parents only) to

    $5(all six of us) + plus a piece of jewelry (for super close realtives)

    So ROUGHLY 82 DOLLARS PER PERSON +one piece jewelry (50 dollars) for bride (from all six of us) who HAS to be a close relative

    (maybe a bit less if they’re less close and depends how much they gave. to be fair.)

    and a card from the 99 cents section again.

    BUT we rarely go to weddings maybe once a year, if were lucky. if we were going to 5 weddings every summer, the amount of money we give. would definitely drop down.

    and if we don’t go will still end up sending, 10-50 dollars. which again is a waste of money.

    personally, for me it depends on the how much they gave. and the closeness. if one person gave me 6 dollars (doubt it alot) , i would give around the same,. get the drift??

    anyways as i said before, its only cheap if you can afford more than that.

    p.s I’m from Australia and the price ranges from approx i think 50 -90 per person so yeah im not sure how much u spend where ever you are.

  • No. Not everyone can spend a small fortune on a wedding gift. Especially if you are having to attend a couple every year, then the price adds up and up! People can only be expected to spend what they can afford and if people call you cheap, then ignore them. They are rude and ignorant to the price of gifts and the value of money!

  • No…you would be cheap if you were close family. But for just a friend or co worker that is fine. Spend what you can afford. There have been summers where I have been invited to over 10 weddings. I have children, a mortgage, car payments and so on, so spending hundreds of dollars was not an option. Spend only what you can afford.

  • no i don’t think so now tell me who gonna keep the gift enclosure card no one so why need to spend more then $1 on it. think before to buy anything its a very good. that means you know the value of the money and $25 gift card it depends what kind of relations you have with the person if that person is very close then it should be a 30 or 50 if not then $25 gift card is fine don’t worry you are not cheap you just think what is right

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  • no your not cheap, you should consider making your own cards it’s a lot cheaper. I agree with you. You get invited to the shower then your still expected to take a gift to the wedding. If your giving money switch to gift cards from wherever they’re registered then the card comes along with the gift card it will save you a little bit.

    Another peice of advice,you know you are invited to at the very least 3 weddings a year so think ahead and clearance shop buy nice things at very low clearance prices for gifts to give out. If your really close to the bride or groom then splurge.

  • A wedding gift, cash or a purchased item, should only be based on one thing, and that is YOUR personal relationship with the Bride and Groom. It has absolutely NOTHING to do with the going rate of cheese and crackers or the price of a chicken dinner and budget “champagne.”

    Are you the brother or sister of the Bride or Groom?

    Is the Bride or Groom your best friend?

    Is the Bride or Groom a childhood nieighbor that you used to play with?

    Is the Bride or Groom someone you see and work with everyday at your place of employment?

    Is the Bride or Groom your boss?

    Is the Bride or Groom someone you talk to once a week due to your job?

    Is the Bride or Groom a college roommate?

    Is the Bride or Groom a long lost cousin?

    Your gift should be different because your personal relationship with each of these people is different.

    In the US, the average price of a wedding gift is $95 . . and the average price of a shower gift is $45.

    Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant

  • I guess it depends on your own financial status. When I was a college student, $25 was about my budget for wedding gifts. I’ve upped by gifting to $50 and I choose to only go to the weddings of my close friends, which usually means I also have to pay for a plane ticket and hotel. Otherwise, I think I’d probably give a nicer gift than that.

  • No, that’s about average to spend on a gift, especially if you’re going to a lot of weddings. If you have a party plus or factory card outlet, which I spend 50 cents for a card that costs close to $5 at the supermarket!

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