Are you married but not in love with your spouse?

Do you stay for the sake of the children? That is where I am at. I have little respect for my husband and no desire to be intimate with him (he’s let himself go).

I make all the decisions and take care of everything regarding our home and our cars and I pay all the bills. I do all the cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping and laundry. I also work.

He keeps track of the retirement plans and plans and mows the lawn.

He is a good father. The children love him and it would break their hearts if he wasn’t around. And it would break his heart too.

Do you think it’s possible to no longer be a “couple” but still live in the same house?

By “let himself go” I mean that he’s put on lbs.

I have maintained the same figure after having two children, but I eat healthy, exercise and take care of myself.

You have to… at least until the kids are grown. It’s the commitment you made when you had them.

When they grow up and move out, you can move on. Until then, try to stay a partner with him when it comes to raising the kids.

Good luck!

I hope that you find happiness, but I don’t think you will find it under the same roof as your husband. Once a couple drifts apart like that and one person assumes all the roles with barley any help around the house it is hard to come back together. You would most likely be happier apart, but to remain friends he and the kids can still maintain a great relationship! that would be better for all of you! that is only my opinion, I don’t think you should be bashed though for your feelings. And anyone that does that may one day be in your situation, and realize they were wrong. good luck

I did it for a while, but love came back and we still together after years.

God that sounds old.

Have you tried giving support, like cooking low cal and healthy, asking him to take a walk, hold hands ?

He may well be feeling pretty bad about himself(I was).

Get some counseling or just sit down and put your cards on the table.

I wish you well, and hope you work it out

Start a plan together with him, go out and do things and rekindle your love. You will regret it if you leave him. Talk to him and tell him that there are some new plans to make. That you two are going to start a fun exersize plan together (like walking), and start up a new hobby together. Also, you need to tell him that you need some relief and he needs to look for a job.

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Also, take a vacation together, but only after you have found day to day things to do together that make you enjoy being around him. Remember things you used to do together that you had fun with.

If you leave him all you are going to do is end up with someone like him but he wont be the father of your kids,so just stay with…ok !!

he has let himself go? what does that mean….i bet if he said that to you , you would be pissed. you are supposed to marry someone for better or worse. And you are supposed to love him unconditionally (thats kind of the point of getting married that you love someone and you cant imagine life without them) if you werent gonna be in it for the long haul you should have never gotten married.

A high percentage of marriages are exactly like yours, sounds like he’s alright with it, if you are too then stay. You have to ask yourself, whose happiness is more important to you, yours or your kids.

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    You have to… at least until the kids are grown. It’s the commitment you made when you had them.

    When they grow up and move out, you can move on. Until then, try to stay a partner with him when it comes to raising the kids.

    Good luck!

  • I hope that you find happiness, but I don’t think you will find it under the same roof as your husband. Once a couple drifts apart like that and one person assumes all the roles with barley any help around the house it is hard to come back together. You would most likely be happier apart, but to remain friends he and the kids can still maintain a great relationship! that would be better for all of you! that is only my opinion, I don’t think you should be bashed though for your feelings. And anyone that does that may one day be in your situation, and realize they were wrong. good luck

  • I did it for a while, but love came back and we still together after years.

    God that sounds old.

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    Have you tried giving support, like cooking low cal and healthy, asking him to take a walk, hold hands ?

    He may well be feeling pretty bad about himself(I was).

    Get some counseling or just sit down and put your cards on the table.

    I wish you well, and hope you work it out

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  • Start a plan together with him, go out and do things and rekindle your love. You will regret it if you leave him. Talk to him and tell him that there are some new plans to make. That you two are going to start a fun exersize plan together (like walking), and start up a new hobby together. Also, you need to tell him that you need some relief and he needs to look for a job.

    Also, take a vacation together, but only after you have found day to day things to do together that make you enjoy being around him. Remember things you used to do together that you had fun with.

  • If you leave him all you are going to do is end up with someone like him but he wont be the father of your kids,so just stay with…ok !!

  • he has let himself go? what does that mean….i bet if he said that to you , you would be pissed. you are supposed to marry someone for better or worse. And you are supposed to love him unconditionally (thats kind of the point of getting married that you love someone and you cant imagine life without them) if you werent gonna be in it for the long haul you should have never gotten married.

  • A high percentage of marriages are exactly like yours, sounds like he’s alright with it, if you are too then stay. You have to ask yourself, whose happiness is more important to you, yours or your kids.

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