How long were you with your girlfriend/boyfriend before you got engaged, and how long before you got married?

Met and married in 3 months, Army sent me to Alamein, didnt see her for 2,years. Happily married to a wonderful woman for 58 years. She died 7 years ago, I still cant let go. We have 4 great Sons, 10 Grandchildren, 18 Great grand children, a wonderful happy family, so my advice, get married young, grow up with your children, and your still young when their are grown into young adults, and you can join in their activities.

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I’ve ran into a similar question to this one before.

There’s no standard time to be with someone before getting engaged.

In my case, I officially got engaged after knowing and being with the person for a little bit over a year. It’s been a few months since the engagement; I’m expecting to get married in a few days.

I would say that a year is enough time to get engaged; however, everyone has a different sense of time. What applies to one person is not going to apply to everyone else.

It’s right for the guy to propose. If the couple have been together for a year. It’s time for him to propose. Some guys would give the excuse of how it’s “standard practice” at where they’re from for a couple to get to know each other for let’s say at least 5 years before getting married. Comments like that or comments about money problems are all excuses not to marry the girl. If the couple have been together for over 5 years, if the guy doesn’t propose then, he’ll never propose. If he misses that train, he’ll never see the girl again.

Nowadays, guys simply enjoy living with the benefits of cohabiting with the girl without having to marry the girl.

But 1 year is definitely long enough to propose to a girl. If a couple have been together for over 5 years, the proposal is definitely over due!

I am 26 – my first marriage: we were friends for over 3 years, but intimate for only a few weeks, no engagement, just a run to vegas (I pulled a Brittany but wasn’t smart enough to get it annulled right away) – marriage lasted 8 months. I am currently engaged to be married in Oct. ’06 – been together for almost 2 years – lived together for most of that time. We got engaged a few weeks ago, and so that will give about a 6 month engagement period. I did not live with my first husband before getting married. I believe that is a SUPER important aspect. It really gives you a chance to get to know the person, and how they are on good & bad days. Hope that answers your question!

We got engaged about a year & 10 months of dating and were married 7 months after getting engaged. we have now been together for 6 years and will be married for 4 in July.

My first marriage we were high school sweethearts, got engaged on my senior prom and got married 4 months later. The marriage lasted a year and a half.

This time we have been together for over two years and have lived with each other for about a year and a half. We’ve been engaged for 7 weeks and planning on getting married either Easter weekend or in June of next year.

We were together as bf/gf for 2 months before getting engaged and married 2 months later. Still married after 11 years.

We were together for 1 1/2 years. We are getting married in 6 weeks and our engagement was one year.

We dated for 2 years. We were engaged about 6-7 months. We’ve been married 5 years.

My husband and I dated for about 2 years before we got engaged and we were engaged for a year before we got married. We have been married for almost 2 years now and everything is going great.

I have known him 3 years. We have been dating 4 months. He asked me to marry him over the phone 2 days ago. We are planning February 28. That way he will be ready to get out of the Air Force and I will be in my first year off college. He leaves for Iraq this Saturday and he Will be back in January of 27. He still wants to do the whole get down on one knee thing so i am using my promise ring for an engagement ring

I think you should feel the point where you feel everything is match and happy together. When you feel like you want to try to see if you can live with the person and no matter what you won’t have feelings with other guys to make you think “otherwise” in the relationship, then it’s time to get engaged. However, with marriage, it’s a life time commitment. It’s about the courage from a man who truely and honestly love you and want to give up all other hot chicks temptation and only focus on you and be with you for the rest of your life. To me, marriage is a really serious issue for both of party INCLUDE BOTH FAMILY. When you married somebody, you are not only marrying to the person, you are actually marrying to his or her family. His or her parents are the biggest issue because if your in-laws doesn’t like each others, then you and your sprouse will always have fight over family issue or mostly money matter all the time. The in-laws will get jealous of each other unless you are marrying a millionaire TRUST ME ON THAT. Since they are old or getting ready to retire, they always want money from the children. BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED, you have to really go through what kind of matter you guys will face when you two live together or have child together. Finacial issue, housework issue, cleaning issue, freedom and private time issue etc are all the realistic issue. When you get married, everyday when you get up is another day. You guys are facing the realistic issue together for real. Another thing is the trust problem. The ideal marriage partner is someone you can trust totally for the rest of the life. Marriage will lead to that there’s no you and me. Everything is share include money and life goal. If not, it will be very easy to ruin the perfect and pure love to each other. Money is a devil because you will face a lot of problems after marriage, include in-laws, kids, and each other’s interest like buying too much DVDs etc. If the life goal is different, it’s very very easy to go separate way. You have to treat your sprouse is your best friend who you can trust and share everything. That’s why usually a relationship will go better if you guys are starting from friend to best friend and then relationship to marriage. The most important thing is that you have to feel comfortable and be who you are without hesitation. Even though sometime you act like a ***** a little bit, your sprouse can stand your temper and then you guys can make up with no problem. Communication is the key. When you love a person, you should trust them with all your heart and give all you have to them without hesitation, if not what’s the point being share life together!!! So, don’t be a secret police or spy to your sprouse to check their cell phone and stuff. You have to understand one point is that, if a person plans to lie to you, no matter how many times you ask them, you won’t get the answer as you want. So, it’s not the matter of how long, it’s about the quality of the relationship and if it’s a suitable point at the relationship to decide if you should get engaged or married. Of course, i will suggest before you get married, get engaged first… because once u get married, then you are set!!! Enagagement will give you some space to look further future together to see if you guys are really want to get married.