I have this sister my mom has told me about, but she is not allowed to know we exist, and we are not allowed to see her. But I really wanna know more about her. By now, she will be 12, and lives in maine, but i REALLY want to know more about her. is there a way around a closed adaption.
my mom put her up for adoption, because she couldn’t take care of her at the time.
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No not until she is 18 can you contact her. Otherwise the law would be involved.
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You cant do anything until the girl is 18. The files are sealed and the adoption is closed until the child is 18. Once the person si 18, he/she can decide to get access to sealed records and contact biological family.
Keep in mind. This girl may not even know she is adopted or may not even know she has sister on bio side. Dont get involved until she is at least 18. If you try before that, that may cause problems between you guys and her family (and her parents may not like bio family suddenly coming in to life….which is why they chose a closed adoption).
Source(s): I was adopted in 1997 (I was 7), foster care 1992-1997
4 siblings on bio side (2 I have never met and really dont wish to), 2 siblings on adopted side.
I have never heard of a law that states she is not allowed to know you exist. Not being able to have contact until she is 18 is one thing. But her adoptive parents should tell her she’s adopted and give her whatever information they have. Did your mother go through an agency? Even though she won’t be able to get the information until she’s 18, there’s a tiny possibility if she becomes curious that her parents will be able to get something called non-identifying information. Your mother should write to the agency and say she wants to submit this, and tell about her occupation and the fact that she has you, the older sibling.
Other than that, there’s a lot more registries you can get on when she turns 18.
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Yes, you can open it. However, to do THAT you need the cooperation of the adopting family, and if you cannot find them, there is no way…
maybe, once she reaches age 18, but not before, at least by what I have heard.
She has about eighteen to make any contact, I’m sorry. xx
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