we are both in supported accommodation for young people, many who have learning disabilities.
i am 37 weeks pregnant and i live in the flat upstairs with my partner. i keep on needing to get up in the night to pee, at least five times and my neighbour will not stop going on about it. he keeps on threatening to file complaints because of the banging noise that i make walking to the bathroom. he has aspergers syndrome and i have been told by support staff that he can’t help behaving self-centred. i had a diagnosis of aspergers until recently but it was dropped, so i have some idea of what it is, but still, i am finding it so hard to cope with him.
he won’t accept anything if he doesn’t get his own way 1%.
me and him had a big argument because he refused to let me when my partner had my key. i admit being rude to him because i put a door stop on the outside door which he removed, despite being able to lock his front door, so there were not any security issues. i yelled at him and he ran away from me. leaving me standing outside. i tried to chase after him to persuade him to let me in and i lost my temper when he was all the way up the road. his parents were also visiting and we were stuck outside for a short while.
he also keeps on apologising and saying sorry just because he gets bored and wants visitors and keeps on changing his mind.
he says sorry only when he’s lonely and wants me round to watch a film.
we used to watch films together, but going around there was hard. he would put on really nasty horrors. i am OK with some horrors but some of the ones he watched i found frightening, and if i told him that i wanted to watch something else he would get all stroppy and refuse to turn the movie off. and it would always be what he wanted to watch, or what he wanted to do, so i stopped going round. he was also constantly on at me to find him a girlfriend, when i felt it wasn’t my place.
now i won’t go round there he’s creeping around me and trying to be nice. i can tell when he’s genuinely being nice and when he does it just for his own benefit.
i have told him that i don’t want to be his friend, i just want to be civil and polite neighbours.
he acts stroppy when he sees me and storms off and gives me dirty looks. then as i said, tries to be nice again to try and push me into watching films with him.
i know i should rise above this, but for some reason it’s really getting to me. i am very stressed at the moment. i am supposed to be moving as soon as the baby is born, so i have to give birth and rush around. i haven’t got much longer left here but i have to be his neighbour up until i give birth. what would you do in my situation?
Update:
we are both in our 20s.
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Congratulations on the baby. I really sympathize with your situation. Try explaining to your neighbor that your pregnant condition is why you are up so much in the night going to the restroom and that you are not doing it just to annoy him. He may not want to hear it, but at least you made the attempt. You don’t have to be friends with anyone you choose not to be friends with. it is good of you to try to keep the peace with your neighbor by being civil to him even if he is not very civil to you. Maybe he has a crush on you and that is why he acts the way he does since you live with your partner, he’s jealous. If this is the case then nothing you do is going to satisfy him, and that is sad. I know things are very stressful for you right now between the issue with your neighbor, being so close to having your baby, and then having to move right after. Try to look at the positives though, soon you’ll meet your little one for the first time, and fortunately you already have plans to move, so you will be away from this neighbor. If he can’t tolerate the noise of you going to the bathroom in the night he surely wouldn’t handle a baby living upstairs. My point is that your moving is a good thing, once the baby is here you definitely don’t want to have the neighbor’s “mantrum’s” to deal with. Just be patient and know you don’t have to deal with him much longer.
call toddler amenities. they might choose for some actual help till now something undesirable happens. call till somebody comes. there’s a nationwide toddler abuse hotline, or the extensive-unfold police. they could be overwhelmed and blind to what to do. little ones are anybody’S corporation, merely see what got here approximately to that little lady whose stepdad stored her tied up and finally beat her to dying, why did not all and sundry get her help?