I met this girl about a year ago when we first came to the UK to do our masters degree, we both come from seperate countries…in the beginning we started out to be jsut friends but later I felt a sort of attraction towards her that was more than just frienship.
I decided not to speak about it as I already know she had a boy friend, I’ve been trying to drive myself away, but there’s always something bringing me back to her…
anyway now were at the end of our course and she decided to go back to her country, I was struggling whether to tell her how I feel but then decided not to, as it would complicate things in the last minute. she’s been having trouble with her bf and she told me its serious this time and they’re gonna break up…this seemed like the perfect opportunity to swoop in but i decided not to.
however, four days ago we were out with a group of friends to celebrate my birthday, and she was telling me that she was struggling with her luggage that day and printing out her tickets..it was then when I realised that she’s really leaving and I might not see her again. one of my friends talked to me and said I would regret this for the rest of my life if I dont tell her, so I did.
I took her outside, and we walked together and I told her how much she meant to me and that I dont want her to leave. she said she wants to go back because her family misses her but her father wants her to stay here because of unemployment rates there. so at the end I told her I have feelings for her, and everything about her drives me crazy…when I told her that, her eyes shined and she kept staring at me, smiling for a while…I wished that moment would never end. I told her that I was trying to keep everything away from her because she had a boy friend, but after I realised how much she meant to me, I cant just let her leave without knowing how I feel about her.
I told her that I understand that this may seem sudden, thats why I want her to think about it, and let me know on her decision. we were interrupted in the very best moments of our conversation by our friends as they wanted to go to a group of pubs to continue celebrating the birthday.
at the end of the night, and after everyone said goodbye to her as she was leaving the next day, I walked her home and we hugged each other long for like three times…we were so close at that time, that even for a second I stopped breathing and she thought I was crying ! at the end I told her to go upstairs to get some rest for her flight, she walked, looked back and then went.
I know its rediculous but its been two days I havent heard from her, and I was wondering what could be going in her mind ? what do you think about my decision and what happened in the night ? I know there is a big possibility she would choose to stay in her country, but she said she’s coming back in december for graduation….so what do you think ?
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I think that regardless of the outcome, you should feel proud that you had the balls to tell her how you felt before it was too late.
She’s probably very emotional from moving alone, and I’m sure that made her that much more emotional. She’s most likely been going through things in her mind, weighing pros and cons, imagining different scenarios, thinking about both the things you said and what’s going to happen when she goes home.
There’s no telling exactly how she really feels but there’s no doubt that you made her feel very special and she thinks very highly of you for it, and you’re on her mind.
I think you have done the right thing. It doesn’t really matter if she’s having bf or not. As long as she’s not married or engaged, you have the right to win her over. Besides, you would unlikely to find a pleasant girl at her age without bf.
Since it’s been two days, perhaps it’s your turn to make a move. Maybe she’s waiting for you move first. If your financial allows, why not going back to her country with her, just a short stay to know her family, if you are serious about this relation.
Good luck.
Aww!
That is a really cute story. 🙂
But anyways, back to what you should do.
In her mind, she is probably just frazzled by the time frame she hasnt been home, she is visiting family. It’s only been two days.
I think you made a good desicion to tell her or else she would have never known and you wouldnt have been able to even have the opportunity to be with her.
Just hang loose there! If she thinks your great, she will call you or find a way to get ahold of you, trust me.
Good luck with your situation.
I hope everythings turns out to be the better.
She’s thinking about it, like you told her. She’s getting used to the fact that her best guy friend likes her so much. I’m sure by the way you said she looked at you that she liked you too. Try imagining if she had told this to you. How would you have reacted? This sounds extremely sweet, and I would put my money of the fact the likes you too. Wait for her to call. She’s probably still unpacking and stuff, so that gives her time to reflect. I’m sure you made the right decision that night. Well, just wait and see. She’ll call. And there’s nothing stopping you from calling her, right?
wow hard 2 say, but u could call her b4 she leaves…to give her one last farewell…if shes already gone, call and see if she made the trip home safely.does she have email? send her an email.
i bet u gave her allot 2 think about. even though u known this 4 a while, she just found out, and look how long it took u to approach her…
so im sure she didnt 4 get about u…
Whenever she comes back for graduation then you should really let her know how you feel. You already lost her once and I know you dont wanna do it again. So just suck up the pride and put it all on the line. Good Luck!!