What are the negatives of your family?

There’s a lot of us, so it gets very stressful. My Mum and Dad are both disabled so we have a lot of responsibility. Most of my siblings are younger than me so it gets quite frustrating sometimes. We argue constantly, about anything and everything.

But there’s also loads of positives. We’re all close and there’s always someone there for you, no matter what. We all take care of each other and look out for each other. You never get bored because there’s always someone to talk to. I look after my younger siblings, which I like doing.

Source(s): 7 brothers, 3 sisters, a disabled Dad and blind Mum.1

My dad was terminally lazy (he’s still alive, but he’s retired now so it makes no difference anymore). He worked for the same company for a little over 20 years, but very seldom brought home a full week’s pay because he was a raging hypochondriac (he would miss two days for a headache). Money was always tight; it did not help that neither of my parents could budget from week to week, yet my parents never seemed to be without beer and cigarettes. Very seldom did we have enough to eat, our power was disconnected at least twice a year because they couldn’t keep the bill paid, we moved almost every year because they couldn’t keep the rent paid either (I counted 21 different places in 26 years).

There were FIVE kids in my family and my parents could not AFFORD to properly take care of 5 kids.

The best thing I can say about my parents was that they never had a moment of marital problems. They never abused each other physically, they DID spank their kids (open palms or a “switch” from a tree outside). They always told us they loved us, they never told us we were worthless and they never kicked any of us out when we turned 18. For as long as they had a house, we had a place to stay. But that was as good as it got.

The negatives of my family is that my mother doesn’t love my father. She married him for a lifelong free dinner ticket and he married her for love. A marriage without love is a disaster. They’ve been fighting all their lives even with 5 children as the outcome of the marriage. Finally my father had moved to a home and left my mother alone. She ‘s quite happy for a few years but recently started to cry for loneliness. But she didn’t want my father back. Instead, she drove us mad everyday by calling us at all hours and expected one of us move to her house and keep her company. No one obliged so far cause everyone is married and all the spouses dislike her. The only divorced daughter ran away to avoid this by going to work abroad. My mother now becomes a nightmare.

my mom talks alot and she is married to a crazy abusive man. My bro is 30 yrs old and still lives at home with my mom….he also slapped his pregoo gf the other day..oh and he isnt even sure if the babies (twins) are his. My sister hasnt spoken to me in like 4 yrs because i gave my son to his father so that i could work and finish school…my son i had him when i was 14 probably because the only father figure i had was beating my mom and i needed real love from a man and i didnt wanna be home…and my sister had her son at 16 and now she has 2 others and doesnt even take care of the fist one….my real father is in our country because he got deported and now has gastric cancer and i cant even see him because i dont know where he is and i was too scared to tell him about my pregnancy so i called the cops on him cause he was standing out side the house and would leave until somebody came home to open the door for him and he had a hammer in his hand and he was fixing the tree in front of our house and i used that as an excuse to call the cops on him and now he is gone and i didnt get a chance to say sorry to him! what else..oh and we are pretty broke right now and i dont work full time because im in school and i cant help out in my home..oh also my abusive step dad tried to get in my pants and when i told my mom about it she didnt believe me so when he did it again and again i just didnt say any thing so i try to not be in the same room as him now and everything is just bad in that house which is another reason why i let my son live with his father but in know in the end my son is gonna hate me for it because he feels abandoned by me!

I have 9 brothers and 6 sisters and we all got long very well considering there were so many of us. But our parents didn’t deal with rudeness, crude and disrespect toward one another. I was 4th in line I had 3 older brothers and we took care of our younger siblings. Our sisters didn’t like it but they had no choice in the matter. Both of our parents worked to support the family. We never went with out, when us boys turned 16 we worked full time and went to school and we had to keep our grades up to A’s and B’s no questions asked. All 16 of us did keep our grades up and 13 out of 16 of us went to college. We all pulled together and got chores and setting the table and dishes done as expected of us. And our father would go around and inspect our work that we did and it better meet his standards or else you did it all over again. Beds you should be able to bounce a quarter off it when it’s made right. Rough but we all knew that we were loved by our parents and they always let us know.

I’m part of very large family 7 girls 3 boys, 27 nieces and nephews and cousins too many to mention. We are all close and keep in touch. Only negative is when someone dies which has happened twice in last 3 years and its absolutely devastating to me to think how many loved ones I may have to see pass away.

Source(s): own experience

I’m one of the luckiest people alive and I can’t really think of any major negatives about my family.

But I just had to answer how amused I am to see that there are 78 responses to your question thus far. I guess people have been pretty repressed all this time responding to all those “what’s the best thing about your family” questions.

although i love my family , and its great there are loads of us but it can be stressful :

I live with my twins sisters who are 15 , Georgia and Alice and my older two sisters come over quite alot with their children . Kaleigh has a 4yr old Chasity -who comes over quite alot as she has a week old baby Morgan. And Maisey sometimes drops her children off Kaila who is 9 and Aimee and Sophie but not as much anymore. So my mum being a single mum sometimes gets quite stressed. Also being the youngest ( 13) my family can sometimes be quite secretive

Also i have a very rebellious sister who is now pregnant :S and she used/ maybe still does smoke and drink as she gets it from her boyfriend and this causes alot of friction between Ally and my mum.

Also my parents have split up and my dad is really annoying and when they first split we got hate mail. which i only found out about 2years ago even though my parents split 8years ago

but its great having older sisters as they are really supportive and they look after me quite alot

and their babies are really cute:)

i have 2 3month old twins nieces and a one week old =)

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We are the weirdest dysfunctional Asian family I know. My parents have OCD and my dad’s conservative, mother doesn’t have an opinion about anything because she’s raised in a communist country. I have an older sister and little sister who grew up with low self esteem because we are constantly criticized for smallest things, like being a failure for being disorganized. My little sister is cool, but we both grew up being social outcasts. My family has problems communicating about everything because they are closed minded. I never had any affection from parents growing up and remember lots of instances of verbal abuse that repel me from talking with my father. Me and my sister see him less than a minute everyday is how bad it got. We got tired of hearing him take his anger on us. My older sister left the house at age 16.

Um that my mother has cut me out of the family and hasnt talked to me in the last year and a half cuz she dosent like my bf.

And her hubby is NUTS so that dosent help

And my Bio dad ran a way with the babysitter when i was little.

But thanks god i have my bfs family

With 8 siblings which equals lots of drama 24/7 and no private time cuz they always are in your bussiness!!

lol i love them though!

DAD’s authoritative, overprotective, claims to be a listener but won’t listen to any voice but his own, has this ideal perfect family in mind and gets mad at the rest of us for not sharing the same view: ie let’s ALL go to the store together to get this one thing I need, let’s ALL go and pay the bills together. Every errand has to be done as a family and really there is no point cause 5 of us in the car nobody gets their personal space and we’d all rather be doing our own things at home. Even HE gets annoyed and mad when there’s all of us scrunched in a car. He never learns…..

The Chitlins – we’re fine doing our own things in our own rooms and prolly should be more open with the fam. Personally I do the duties of a daughter: cook, clean, watch brothers, don’t talk back to parents, and so on. I obey, but I never felt comfortable opening up to my rents about ANYTHING. I keep my personal life to myself and let them see me as the capable good daughter.