my BF and his Ex have a child together. the ex has custody and my bf has visitation every week. so i understand they are connected by the child. I know because i have a child with another man. The difference is i only speak with my ex when my child visits him and thats it… we have seperate lives. i think her constant connect that is not involving the child is inappropriate.
The ex texts him atleast once a day. I would understand if the texting was concerning his child in an emergency, but these messages are not. an example of a message was when she text him at 1am complaining that her mouth hurt…. i mean, why does she think he wants to know or care??? Its getting on my nerves. Ive told my bf and he agrees that its annoying and says he has talked to her about it and she agreed to stop but she continues to do it. he says he will have another talk to her about it.
Firstly i want to know that i am not wrong and have good reason for being pissed off about it.
Secondly, what can my bf or i do to get her to stop? because obviously him talking to her about it isnt working!
Some people pointed out changing the cell number and giving her a home phone number instead but problem with the home number is she would call it everyday. We were thinking of getting another prepaid cell that she could text to her hearts content but it wont have any credit to text her back so she would soon get bored??? That way she could let him no if there was an emergency but she wouldnt be getting any reaction from her other messages.
Or just ignore the messages?
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You have every right to feel pissed off! And if this were just some stranger, you could file harassment charges. But that is not the case…….
If I were you, I would ignore this, and encourage him to do the same. The more you complain and give this girl attention, the more she will continue to bother you.
Chances are, she feels abandoned and jealous, because he has moved on. But changing your phone number, trying to reason with her, etc. only makes the problem worse, in my humble opinion.
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She is still emotionally tied to him,why has he not stopped this? would make me really suspicious of his motives, you can either
1. put him on a short lease, i.e be ther when he gets his kid, always.or you pick up kid
2. restraining order, no good tho as he is encouraging her to think there is a chance of getting back with her by not cutting it off.
3. she can only ring you in an emergency and change all numbers,and she just has your mobile/cell number.
Wake up! she wants him back.