seems like the doctors and nurses want to hurry up and get the baby out as fast as possible but isn’t that dangerous for mother and baby? if someone really needs to get the baby out fast for some reason then they should do a cesarean not stress mother out to hurry up and push which stresses the baby out too.
shouldn’t the mother listen to her body on when is a good time to push, for how long and how hard?
reason i ask this is because a family friend gave birth to her first and she told us the nurses kept literally yelling at her to keep pushing but she barely had breaks in between and she felt light headed and everything was throbbing she just couldn’t keep pushing like they expected. one of the nurses actually said to her “if you don’t want to listen then im just going to give up on you” we know this because everything was being taped and we watched it, it wasn’t just her we all thought the nurses were being too harsh and pushy and there was nothing wrong with the baby before birth there was no reason to rush.
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umm horse? first of all it wasn’t just me who had the same opinion it was everyone who watched the tap including the mother, second i can have opinions all i want what in the world are you talking about? i don’t know what your problem is but get over it.
also i should mention the baby wasn’t crowning at all it was from the start of pushing to the finish like that
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Drs like to put women on timelines. There is no set time for how long it takes to push the baby out. Some women take 5 minutes, some take 3+ hours. What you are describing is called ‘purple pushing’ and has been show to increase the risk of tears, episiotomies and exhaustion leading to a c-section. Generally, there is NO medical reason for this.
For the record, it is completely normal for the baby’s heart rate to go down during contractions. What the medical practitioners should look for is the heart rate rebounding once the contraction is over. And really, once the head is engaged, there is no need to hurry the baby out. The baby will not take a breath while still in the the birth canal – the baby is signalled to take a breath when air hits the baby’s skin. There is no danger of the baby suffocating, unless the cord is being compressed – while the cord is still attached to both the baby and mother, the baby’s oxygen comes from the blood in the cord. This is very simple biology. Perhaps more women should research for themselves rather than believe every old-wives tale out there.
I have heard of many women who don’t push at all, and rather ‘breath’ the baby out. This results in a gentler delivery with less trauma to the mother. It’s too bad so many women think they can’t push their baby out without outside direction. Your body knows what to do without being screamed at to push.
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This is precisely why I want a midwife birth. Drs want the birth to fit into their schedule, and if it doesnt, they will use drugs to speed it up, or do a cesarean for lack of progression. It is so important to go into your birth informed. Dont go along with what Drs say just because they are Drs.
Most women push when they are fully dilated, simply because they are fully dilated, and it can take a lot more time that way because they are not ready yet, dilation does not indicate readiness of the body to deliver. Waiting until the urge comes is best because you have less risk of tearing, and as long as there is no fetal distress, then there is no reason they cant wait. They want it to fit into their schedule, and that is no reason for me to rush anything.
I mean, I dont know anything more about that particular situation since I was not there and am not the Dr involved, but it can get dangerous if there is fetal distress and once they are at a certain point in the birth canal, they are at risk of suffocation and infections and breathing in the fluids.
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Sounds like your friend had a bad group of nurses and doctors.
I had my son naturally in the hospital and even though they told me I could take as many breaks in between pushing as I needed,I still pushed everytime they told me I could I wanted to get my son out so I could meet the lil guy.The doctor I had never yelled at me,because if they did I would have yelled back!LOL.But never yelled.I got my son out and was relieved he was finally here!
But as for your friend,I feel sorry for her and sympathy goes out to her with yelling doctors and nurses I would have been stressed to if someone was yelling at me.
All I gotta say is with this pregnancy,they better not start yelling or Ill quit pushing all together and yell back.
Tell her congrats on the new arrival though!
Source(s): Mother of an amazing lil boy and expecting another lil boy 2-2-10!!!10
My fist beginning used to be brought on 10 days overdue and ended in a c-segment 26 hours later. If I needed to do it over I might have refused the induction and allow nature take it is direction. The medicinal drugs did not accept as true with me and it used to be only a unhealthy difficulty. I had one hard work and supply nurse that used to be kinda nasty however or else cherished all my medical professionals and nurses. I stayed within the clinic for a couple of days on the grounds that of the surgical procedure however when you consider that I used to be sharing a room, my husband wasn’t allowed to stick. My moment beginning made up for the whole thing missing the primary circular. I went into hard work on my possess a couple of weeks early and added vaginally (vbac) most effective five hours later. It harm like loopy however I used to be so excited. It used to be a further clinic, more recent, nicer, higher. The medical professionals and nurses had been powerful and I cannot say a poor factor approximately it. Just bear in mind that your frame is designed to give this youngster. You are more potent than you recognize and should you feel constructive and belive in your self you can do powerful matters. I do have a couple of ideas for the primary time mother. Stand up for your self. This is your beginning and should you wish whatever, talk up. Don’t glide and do what is less complicated for the clinic employees. If you do not wish and episiotomy then say so. If you wish to keep onto your youngster for an additional few mintues simply say so. I used to be nonetheless numb from my epidural and the nurse desired to take my youngster to the nursery for a tub. Since I could not get round I informed her no, that she’d must wait till the following day on the grounds that I desired to be there. She stated no situation and ended up giving the bathtub within the sink of my room so I might be there. Be first-rate however please talk up. This is a existence exchanging enjoy for you and simply an extra beginning for they all. When you get in a position to push ask for a replicate. I understand you can be grossed out now on the suggestion however it particularly helped me push higher and gave me a higher appear at youngster as she used to be born. So comfortable I did. Also, the nurses will present anguish remedy after beginning however it is as much as you to invite for it whilst you wish to have it. I could not hold monitor of what I might have whilst so I eventually informed the nurse that I wish to take the max dose of the meds so they did not put on off (which particularly harm). She placed a notice in my chart and the nurses simply introduced my meds once they had been due. Take your possess bathe stuff for after the beginning and in addition take your possess pj’s and slippers so you can be extra relaxed. The most effective different ought to haves for me used to be chapstick, lotion, toothbrush/paste, and hair ties. Everything else sat in my bag untouched. Congratulations and well good fortune on a blissful and healthful beginning!
THey get like that when the baby’s head is engaged (when it’s at the smalles point between the mother’s pubic bones) and it begins to squish the baby’s head. They start getting panicky when the baby’s heart rate drops (because it’s head is getting squished). By this point it’s too late to do a c-section. When the baby’s head gets that far down, it needs to come out QUICKLY so it doesn’t die. Plus once it’s past that point (but before the head is out) it could take a breath and suffocate inside the mother.
Plus when it gets to that point, the baby is raedy to come out RIGHT THEN. THe mother hardley gets a break, it’s like push-push-push, breathe, push push push!
Nurses sometimes get a little rude to motivate the mother and give her the sense of urgency she may not have.
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Every birth they only try to let you get small breaks when pushing and they do keep telling you to push. I really don’t know why they said they would give up on her that doesn’t seem right but whatever you say. If they really did I would have filed a complaint.
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Watch the Documentary called “The Business of Being Born”
It is such a good documentary on exactly this subject.
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My body was telling me to push and my nurse actauly told me to cross my legs and hold him in!!
and she yelled at me every time i pushed!! but it was my body that was doing it she was like “little grunts r okay but no pushing”
well guess wut?
he came out!!
i hated my nurse anyways she treated me like i was retarted, and she glared at me everytime i would yelp
i did it all natraul, and she kept trying to push me into haveing an epi when i didnt want it.
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Since you have NO IDEA how births work or WHAT not pushing could have caused then you shouldn’t be giving your opinion! The baby could have breathed in it’s own fluids and other problems could have occurred! THEY know what they are doing and YOU have no clue!
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