Why is being reserved seen as being stuck-up?
✅ Answers
Answerer 1
Actually, etiquette doesn’t consider that rude. But there is a difference between being reserved and having no interest in socializing. Make sure you’re not conveying more antipathy than you’re actually feeling.
Answerer 2
i think its a control thing. Everyone wants people to be as sociable and friendly as them so they are comfortable
Answerer 3
I agree with the person who talked about control. I think some people consider it rude because they want or need others to make them feel good. Not necessarily good about themselves, but good in general. We live in a culture where we seek validation from others and from getting material things so when someone doesn’t go out of their way to make us feel good/comfortable we may automatically judge them as selfish, rude, insensitive, stuck-up, and I’ve noticed the trend of overusing and misusing psychopath and sociopath. Rather than look within to find out why they feel a certain way, some people choose to blame others and labeling someone as stuck-up is one way to do so. Just my thoughts.
Answerer 4
It is a persons personalize choice, or prerogative. I do not think of controlling one self to indulging it for real life happiness, it is how you carry your self, that best feelings you get for your self. feeling comfortable, rather than get friends. who are fake, and later re discovering they acquired some bad influence to your life it is not a sad joke but true, by socializing there are 2 kinds of friendship you may get the good and the sad, if you are willing to do it for your self you are very smart to gamble .for facing the pros and cons, in meeting different kinds of persons and friends and the best way to manage it. for you to enjoy and share a positive happiness with them. especially those well off, people they have the guts for extended partying night and day because they can afford. it but if you are not exposed to such habit, you will learn to be there just to gained there friendship and be one of them. so I hate pretensions if i am anti social. I will make it a point to let them know that I am not. fake take me as I am. if you are really interested in me to be a part of your common friend for a group in socializing.
Answerer 5
Honestly idek . I feel you because i could give 2 fuxx about long talking in social moments . sometimes idc for even small talk . But just because i’m not talking doesn’t mean i’m mad or weird just don’t feel like talking is all
Source(s):
Kush and wisdom
Answerer 6
there are times when social occasions require all of us to drag ourselves out of doors. weddings, funerals, work functions.
its good to keep social skills honed even if you dont need them very often.
but think about this: you are only this way because you havent met people you can relate to. everybody is in the same boat so we all have to go to these things. might as well make the most of the opportunity
what better way to meet people whom you can relate to, than by increasing the number of people you meet?
if you start focusing on meeting and befriending people who share your interests then you stand a chance of meeting the other people they share that interest with. pretty soon you have a circle of friends who share your interests
Answerer 7
It depends on the context, which you failed to describe.
You can’t see why not showing any interest in other people is seen as stuck-up? Really?
You COULD learn to have a slight smile on your face, AND learn to do basic things, such as exchanging greetings, and even making chit-chat, if you don’t want people thinking you stuck up.
Answerer 8
Someone who sees reserved people as stuck-up doesn’t know what it feels like to be introverted, have social anxiety, etc. Personally, there are few times that I could see myself judging a reserved person to be stuck-up. When I think of a reserved person I think they are modest, private, maybe shy, but not stuck-up.
If someone is looking at someone who is reserved and calling them stuck-up, they are probably projecting their own personality onto the reserved person.