me and my boy friend are really serious and plan to get married after he finishes college and we get stable finacially. we live in different states hes in NC im in TN. we have met twice and my son absolutly adores him. he doesnt have a real dad because i was raped when i was 15. i want my son to have a reliable dad. and this guy is really good with him and id be happy to let him be my sons dad. is it ok to let my son call him daddy? hes only 2 so he wouldnt really know..
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my bf does want to be his dad also. hes comfortable with it and wants to call him his son. and we have known each other and talked for about a year now but we just havent had a lot of time to go meet each other. we talk on the phone everynight though for an hour before my son goes to bed and then he tells him goodnight and we go to bed. ive never been this happy with anyone. hes the first guy ive felt safe talking to and the only one interested in my son. i think he honestly loves my son more then he loves me haha. and i will tell my son about where his real dad is. i just figured my bf would be a good replacement for him.
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i think it would be fine if he called him dad but make sure he knows the truth about his real dad it might be hard to bring up and prolly emotional but he deserves to know the truth some day
My now husband has been in my oldest son’s life (he’s 7) since he was 18 months old. He only calls him his dad sometimes and I don’t rush to let him call him that.
Not until he IS his step-father. Boyfriends just don’t count.
Especially a boyfriend you have met TWO TIMES! I can’t believe you would allow your son to attach himself to this man.
You are only 17. Don’t jump into this relationship to find a father for your son. You shouldn’t be planning on marrying someone you have met twice.
Get your own education so you can support your son.
Meeting your son two times does not make the man father material. He has no idea the ins and outs of parenting.
Your serious but you only met twice?? He adores your son but you only met twice… Only met twice… Only met twice… Um am I the only one who sees how ****** up this is?? Umm and just so you know your son does know what dad is.. I can’t stand when girls act like their kids don’t know what dad means. Kids are way smarter then you think. Ok so that’s where my mini bashing ends(sorry) but if your serious about this guy and he is about you then it’s ultimately up to you and more importantly your child. I wouldn’t recommend it till you guys are more in a stable relationship like living nearby or seeing each other on a regular basis.. Not the webcam or phone… Maybe of you guys hadn’t only met twice and actually spent more real time together and then he went to college and that’s the only way you guys could keep contact but that’s not the case here. Your really young and I hope that your first priority is your child and bettering yourself especially after what you been through.
wow really serious with meeting 2 times?? But if your son doesn’t know, why not? Don’t make him call your BF dad, but I wouldn’t stop him if he just starts calling him that on his own. You should talk to your BF to see if he would feel comfortable being called daddy by someone who isn’t his blood child.
Serious and you only met twice? LOL whatttt
I think so. I call my step dad dad ha