My boyfriend and I have been together for a month and a week. We’ve known each other for 3 months.
We have amazing s*x and laugh and a good connection talking about all of lifes features.
He’s 24, I’m 26. He moved to my city to be closer to me…
The other day we got into an argument, I had been away for a week with my siblings and the limited phone calls we had were hard. I missed him and he missed me. In talking and bickering, he ended up saying that he feels like he can’t offer me enough. That he knows I’m ready for serious things soon-ish, and he’s scared he can’t give me enough or achieve that. He said his feelings are the same, but he has no idea what he’s doing when it comes to career or direction and is confused. He doesn’t want to rob me of the attention I deserve and feels selfish. He wants to give me what I deserve but right now working as a barista (coffee) his self-esteem is down and he’s unsure of everything. He’s even questioning his faith (being away from his family) and what matters to him in life –
This is the second time its come up. I’m not sure whether he wants me to fight for him and say ‘STAY – lets just take it as it comes’ or let him go, and figure it out himself? We ended up crying, near breaking up, and then reconnecting and cuddling and making love. But I’m scared he’s going to freak out agian – and he is too.
Should I let him go figure himself out and do his own thing? he said that he doesn’t want to be without me, but also wants to get his **** together to have something to offer me.
What do i Do?
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A month and a week and you gave up the sex already? Jeez, no wonder he is having second thoughts if you give it up that quickly in all your relationships. You’re like a pair of shoes everybody gets to try on but nobody wants to own.
Look, he sounds he’s having a hard time in his life right now. It happens to the best of us. A mans pride is the only thing he has to himself. But unfortunately is also seems like he’s making these excuses to stray away from you intentionally because he can’t find the confidence to just say it. Personally I think if you want him then you try everything in your power to go get em. If it wasn’t meant to be it wasn’t meant to be. Carpe diem.
Cheers!! The best of look to you!
Decipher is this: he’s not sure whether you would accept or decline an offer of marriage.
What do you do? Do what you want. The problem is his, not yours: he’s not sure whether you accept him as he is. If you do accept, tell him. If you don’t, either tell him, or break up, or string him along a bit.
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I’ve seen it before