Do you think we should we apologize?

I wouldn’t worry with the other parents but I would explain what happened to the teacher and apologize to her and let her handle the situation since the parents will be calling her not you. However, if for some reason a parent finds out it was your child starting this and calls you directly (which I would think is innappropriate…they should call the teacher) then just explain to the parent what you did and apologize. In the future when you talk to your child about this stuff maybe remind them that some stuff they should not talk about with others…some stuff should be said at home with mommy and daddy only,

But don’t worry to much….their kids and by next week they will be saying something else that some other kid said or did.

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No, if what your daughter has been taught is true, then you should not have to apologize.

However, five years old is too young to know all the details – telling her that she grew in Mommy’s tummy because Daddy put her there, is enough information for a child so young.

Now you have some damage control to do, you could mention to her that what you told her is true, but most kids her age don’t know as much as she does, so just tell her that she grew inside Mommy’s uterus because Daddy put her there. If you tell her that several times she will remember that better than what she heard earlier.

Good Luck – remember, don’t give too much info, unless you want it bandied about the neighbourhood.

We live on a farm, so our 5 year old knew quite a bit more than her peers – I’ll never forget overhearing her telling a little friend – “See that Rooster over there, dancing around in front of the chickens? He just want’s to mate with that Hen, it’ll be over in a second, see ….. he’s done – its not like he’s in love with her you know” Then she told her friend that the eggs would now be fertile so if the hen sat on them long enough, there would be chicks hatching!

I had to explain to the child’s parents what they had been told, luckily they laughed, but there is never anything wrong with telling children the truth, except you have to make it age-appropriate and be aware that they may tell all the neighbourhood!

You obviously did a good thing telling your 5 yr old about where babies come from but you obviously shouldnt have gone in detail about sex yet until at a later time when she was a little bit older to take in the concept of baby making and not think it as a class joke. Educating your children is one thing but giving them information that is too much for a certain age is not very helpful and appears very unappropriate. Try taking baby steps next time in what you tell children about sensive issues but again you could be that parent who doesnt care what you say to your child as long as its the truth e.g Dad is an asshole so Ruth might aswell know that because its the truth. Come on now?

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Sex is such a natural part of life that I don’t think that when kids ask that it should be avoided or sugarcoated. No stork or any lie.

My daughter hasn’t asked me yet. she’s almost 4…and I’ve recently had another. but when she DOES ask…I plan to tell her every part of the natural mammalian process of procreating. You don’t explain it to them as if you were reading a romance novel!! lol

Why should a human child not know how humans reproduce??

You have no need to apologize. You did what you felt was right for YOUR child.

Maybe you could just tell your daughter to not talk about it at school.

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kids are naturally curious and there is nothing wrong with being open and honest with them when they have a question like this. if 5 years old is the right age for her to ask you where babies come from, then that’s the right age for you to tell her. it doesn’t warp her development. it won’t make her curious about having sex at an early age. i think you’re establishing a great, open relationship with your daughter. you definitely want to be the first people she comes to when she has questions about sex or any other important life topic. at her age, i knew where babies came from and that only grown ups should make babies. i think i turned out okay…

as for the other kids…it’s kind of like telling her the truth about santa. once she has this great new knowledge, she naturally wants to share it with everyone who will listen; so you need to let her know that it’s something that she can talk about with you anytime, but that it’s something that you only talk about at home. like, it’s okay to be naked at home, but we don’t do that when we’re at school because it’s not the right place for naked time. we don’t show our bodies at school, and we don’t talk about our bodies at school. but it’s always okay at home and she can always ask you if she has a question about something.

maybe apologise just to smooth things over a bit, but i don’t think you were in the wrong at all to be open and honest with your child.

good luck. hope this was helpful!

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Its your choice on how open to be with your child. And I would have done the same thing. No apologies. Well maybe to the teacher and say that I’d have another talk with my child, just out of courtesy. And I’d explain to my child, that our conversation about making babies should only be discussed at home. Honestly, I’d rather her come to me than go to her teacher or other students anyway.

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I agree with LOJunkie. That’s what my mother did with me. I was the oldest child and of course I got curious. My mother never lied to me. There’s no point in telling your child a random story about a stork or cabbage patch or ignoring their legitimate questions. However, there is a time and place for every conversation. It’s kind of like telling your kid there’s no Santa Claus. You want your kid to know there isn’t one but you don’t want everyone else’s holiday season ‘ruined’ in the process. 🙂

I think society would be much better if we all just treated our bodies like biology instead of some taboo, forbidden topic. That’s what makes kids so curious. If you ignore a topic or don’t speak about it, then a child is going to grow up wondering what the “big deal” was. I was the girl who was focused on her studies and the girls that grew up believing in the cabbage patch that brought their little doll babies ended up being the ‘explorers’.

Just my two cents and observations.

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I believe your were completely within your rights as parents to explain sex to your child. Just try to make it very clear that sex is a taboo subject and she should not speak about it with anyone at school. You should just send a nice note to the teacher explain that you did not intend for your child to teach the entire class about sex, you were just trying to be a responsible parent.

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Telling your children where babies really come from is far better than making up warm & fuzzy BS. My parents explained it to me when I was that age, but then again I didn’t bring it up at school.

You have nothing to apologize for. All you did was speak frankly and truthfully with your child. Those other parents are simply uncomfortable with the truth.

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No dont apologize u felt ur child was ready for that talk u shouldt have to apologize that the others werent ready

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