I’m fifteen and live with my mom, cousin (shes 31) and cousin’s 9 year old daughter. My cousin lives with us because she’s pregnant, broke, no longer with her baby’s dad and cant support herself. She is rude, hurtful and just an all around *****. She has always dumped her daughter on me while she went out and partied. She moved in with us in February. I’ve struggled with depression, thoughts of suicide and cutting since I was thirteen, over feelings of loneliness, sadness, grieving the loss of 11 family members, one to suicide. Well now Dez, my cousin is treating me even worse than she has. I’ve always been the black sheep in my family, and thats another reason for my depression. Dez constantly harrasses me, yells at me and makes me feel like complete ****. I tried talking to my mom about it but she just puts all the blame on me, when I’m not doing ANYTHING to Dez at all. I just recently told my mom about cutting, and she screamed at me, said I should just cut my whole head off and that to go cut myself then. She yells at me when I ask for help dealing with Dez. I feel so trapped in this. I’m not happy at home. I hate being here. I feel like my mom doesn’t care.I’m only going to get worse, she treats me like a mental patient and even threatened to take me to a mental hospital. I just need support and I’m not getting any at all from family, friends or my mom… I don’t know what to do anymore and some advice would be nice. Thanks.
Update:
i have tried standing up for myself, but then Dez gets the rest of my family involved. Then it gets to my mom and she tells me I need to suck it up and get over it. And that it makes her look bad.
Update 2:
I’ve tried talking to her and it always ends in a fight… She gets so angry at me and I honestly don’t know why…
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Hello. I suggest that you join some sort of club.
May be a volunteer group that reads to older people or ill children.
At lest you would get some quality time away from your family where you may be able to relax and think clearly for a change.
Meet some new people and get a new point of view.
It always helps to get a new point of view.
well im a 14 year old guy so i think i can think like you a little more than any adults here
alright so the only thing i could think of is if it gets worse or stays bad call social services or get an adult to do it for you i know it might be hard leaving but it could be the right thing to do
but i also think your mom is going through alot i mean learning about you cutting, the deaths of all of those family members you mentioned, and supporting your cousin who is a wreck and cant support herself and partys just think about the way she feels
but as i said before if it gets worse consider a foster hme
You poor thing. I think that you should calmy sit down and have a mother daughter talk. Tell her calmy what’s going on and tell her about your risky thoughts. Tell her that you honestly need help and she’s the only person you can turn to. Tell her that you want to do therapy. ( which I think u should get). If she still doesn’t listen, sigh and while your walking away tell her that if you turn out to be a bad person (which u won’t) then it’s gonna be her fault because she has refused to help you in your time of need.
If she still says no…. Try calling a relative or close and trusted friend and tell them the same thing.
Hope this helps. 🙂
talk to your guidance counselor or seek help.
for example there has to be a non profit agency depending where you live.
i went through the same things with my mother until i lost it one day and was taken to the hospital.
someone spoke to me (i was 16 going on 17) and then child services got involved and we were referred to a non profit agency called SCO Family of Services in NYC.
since your mother is not listening to you, go to them.
you can also call your local runaway or suicide hotline.
i say make a lot of people involved so your mom pays attention.
don’t do it. it’s not worth it. i know. i’ve moved out, and i’m not completely happy but better off by myself.
contact me if you want to.
I cant say I understand your predicament fully and to do so would be stupid of me. But what I can tell you is this: we will always be challenged in life, others more so than the rest. How we act defines us, now are you going to let the fates remember you as the sniveling little girl who could never hold her own and stand up for herself….or are you going to be the one who will stand before the storm, and say, “Do your worst, for I shall do mine.”
do not worry this is a good start for you to seek who God is. if you have a bible start reading it. 1% sure you will see the love you are looking for. do not be discourage and never surrender this is what Jesus says: “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. -Matthew 28:11
never give up okay? if you want you can also email me may email is [email protected] God bless remember never give up!!