I’ve caught my fiancé lying a couple times about girls from his past that he dated whom he still talks to. All I ask of him is to tell me the truth. But catching in these lies after he swore up and down makes me think if he’s trying to hide something. He assures me he’s not, how do I believe him???
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I’m truly sorry about what happened with your fiance. I’m gng through something very similar, I noticed he had been talking to ex-wife & checked his cell, noticed she was the one looking for him & all the times he had rejected her calls. What gets to me, it’s the lying, sworn he hadn’t heard from her in a while, when she had just called that day abt 20 times..to me, if there isn’t nothing to hide than why lie, he claims cause he knew I’d get like this..To me it made it worse! Cause now, I don’t know if I can believe a thing, he says 🙁 Only you know, if he’s worth the time, if he’s done more good than bad in the past. Trust is to be earned not to be given..Best of luck!..Hope it works out b/w the two of you!
Source(s): own experience
If hes lying already he will keep lying all through the marriage don’t bother because once they know they can avoid the question and lie knowing you will get over it they will keep at it and won’t care, even if you have kids things won’t change don’t involve yourself in a relationship where you already know how things are and you’re engaged already. If you want to try something give him an ultimatum he stops the lying and if you catch him its over, don’t let him think that he can get away with whatever he wants too by allowing and continuing a relationship with doubts there are some good men out there i wish you good luck 🙂
Trust is something that is earned it can’t just be given back he needs to prove himself to you for you to be able to trust him again. At this point he hasn’t given you any reason to trust him if he swore he was telling the truth before you caught him in a lie, their isn’t any reason that you should believe that he isn’t lying about hiding something now. He needs to find a way to prove he isn’t lying.
the quick way to resolve this is a gamble….. but if you have faith and trust your husband than what can go wrong:
so the quick way is to… drop the fiance stuff. period. break it off. tell him you don’t need that and it shouldn’t happen cause its not like u do that to him.
if he really loves you after you give that fiance stuff a break because of his actions, he should drop those girls in an instant….
i’m not being cold blooded, or cocky, or sassy or whatever, its just that he is pulling some jerk moves and thinks he can get away with a few of them becasue your so niice and forgiving
if you don’t do this… at least think about all this okay
You don’t believe him, he’s proven himself not to be trustworthy. Now you decide if you want to marry a man who lies to you, a man who you will never fully trust again. You will always be suspicious on some level, will you be happy in that life? Its all about choices.
The have confidence substitute into broken and it can not ever be a similar and it will basically be a rely of time till he does it back. You caught him out this time who says there wasnt others? you in addition to might comprehend he lies so nicely he might desire to be mendacity approximately what surpassed off between them. the only way you could love and have confidence him is to act such as you dont comprehend, stay in denial and be unhappy…. you deserve extra effective! ruin it off and circulate on! extremely recover from him now than be a statistic of divorce.
As far as you know, he hasn’t cheated. Only lied. If you can’t trust him, tell him that. If your trust can’t be repaired over time with good behavior, don’t stay with him.
Source(s): many relationships
It’s not your responsibility to trust him again it’s his responsibility to stop lying. Your responsibility is to walk away if he keeps lying. Good luck.
dj1111 is right.