ok so i’m I’ve always been like this i want to stop
last week i did something stupid with my cousin (not to her,i did not hurt her feeling or anything i just made myself look really dumb)
and i can’t let go,i’m putting myself down because of it and say to myself how dumb i acted
and now i’m nervous she wont be my friend anymore(i know its not true)and not just this
i play the film over and over again in my head(when i talk to my sister she says how pathetic iam to still talk abbout it and i should stop because im being silly) i cant
i feel sh ashamed of myself
not only for this situation but all the time how can i stop ? i know i have low self esteem
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For your self-esteem, choose an affirmation to say out loud times, times a day for days, such as:
I am loving, lovable and loved.
Louise Hay has a lot of these.
For your ‘guilty feelings’ and the movie playing in your head, I find the judge-your-neighbours worksheets on thework.com really helpful for any guilt/shame/embarassment.
Putting yourself down is ‘judging yourself’ – when you judge yourself, you generally judge others and a lot of anger can build up, when you love and forgive yourself, you generally love and forgive others. It’s not your fault, the brain can work away without our permission as thoughts process themselves and try to be understood. I find this youtube video really helpful for helping me out of anger or judgement: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sYyCWpPEYo&feature…
I find this blog http://www.option.org/blog/ really good for reminding myself that I am creating pain when I could be creating more happiness. I hope you find something helpful here!