How do you tell kids about the “birds and the bees”?

It was many years ago, so I don’t recall exactly how old my two daughters were…I would say maybe 11 and 8 or somewhere around there. The youngest was all ears; the oldest didn’t want to hear anything, LOL! I kept it simple and fairly clinical. I basically explained how babies are made, without going into a lot of detail about puberty and desires and emotional considerations. I did try to emphasize the fact that this was an act of love and not to be taken lightly, and also warned of teenage pregnancy and its negative effects. I did not go into a lot of detail, but I did encourage them to ask any questions, then or at a later time. As the years went by, we had more conversations about the other aspects, but I reasoned their true curiosity at their ages was where babies came from. (This was many years ago, so dating took place at a later age than it does now.)

As we expected, the kids had a field day when they got together the next day! The good thing about it was that we didn’t have one child who thought she knew it all and another who knew nothing and was shocked by the information.

It must have worked. None of the children involved ever became teenage or unmarried parents.
– Chosen by Asker

When I have kids I’ll tell them point blank that they were conceived through sexual intercourse.

I plan on telling my son an age appropriate version of the truth.

I will sit down and have heart to heart, bring in real life situations and people.

Crisco and a shotglass.

It depends on what they ask and how old they are.
By the age fourteen they should know it all.
However some kids start asking really early.
I think that I would give my daughter the puberty talk around the time that they show the video in fourth grade and save the “sex” talk until she is in middle school or when she gets her period if that is sooner. For the “puberty” talk I would take her out by herself for ice cream or a walk in the park and ask her if she would like to buy a training bra and a box of pads just in case. Then ask her what she knows and clarify those things. Then I suppose I would tell her funny stories from when I was her age. Daddy would talk to the boys. For the “sex” talk, I would answer honestly what they asked me whenever they asked me.

I never had the talk. And I know all there is to know which is kinda bad.

Dont mention the birds and the bees.. thats the most confusing comparison I’ve ever heard. What do birds and the bees have to do with concieving a baby? Its a pretty far fetched.. Just give them the facts age appropriately. They should know it all by tweens. And make it open enough where they can come back and ask you questions. I dont know why people are so embarrassed about it. Its a fact of life and most of everyone does it…

What does crisco and a shot glass mean. I really want to know.

Also dont listen to that Zorro guy he is an idiot.

We tell our boys the truth, that they have a penis that fits into vaginas and that is how babies are made. No BS in my household.

Well for starters, I never used the term “the birds and the bees”. I also never discussed fictional storks…or “peepees” and “woowoos”.

tell them that they have simalar things but they can he dangerous also.

I never got that talk.
* I was given a whole encyclopedia,
* I read, and
* I was asked if I had any questions. The questions (not many) were answered.
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Me? I and my wife have answered my kids questions as they have come. Before answering I get sure to understand what they are asking.

Zorro- sarcasm doesn’t pass very good over the internet so i cant tell if your serious or not lol. Crisco is a wine/beer whatever you wanna call it. So basically is saying to drink to loosen up before you tell ’em.

I never had the sex talk. Since I was four, my mother had been sitting me down and letting me watch a puberty video, which of course showed diagrams of both sexes. It was never really a mystery. I’m sixteen now and all my friends are having babies.. and what’s amazing is that I know more about both sexes body parts then they do, but I guess you don’t learn much in a dark backseat.

I didn’t have “the talk”, it was a “conversation” which began when they were eight and lasted until they were adults. Children require trusted adults who can provide accurate information on maturation, and help combat the negative images of the media on an ideal body type. This is true for both boys and girls as both are used as sexual attraction in selling goods and services but is especially true for girls. Girls prone toward lower body image in greater numbers than boys. Boys buy into this ideal too, not just about the male body but also about the female body which they then pass onto girls albeit not intentionally, which further damages both sexes perceptions.

The maturation process is natural and can be a time of excitement. This excitement does not need to change into disgust after the initial physical changes begin. Conversation and communication with parents or with a trusted adult which begin early and end late are the ideal way to deal with this issue.

just sit and talk to them

I’ll wait until the teachers give it to them at school. Then I’ll ask if they have any questions. If they do, I’ll answer honestly. I’m not going to lie to my kids. But, if they ask me anything before they get it at school, I’ll give them an age apropriate talk. For example if my 5 year old son asks me something, I won’t give him a full answer. If my 11 year old daughter asks me a question, I’ll give her a more detailed answer.

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mom of two.

My parents never gave me the sex talk. My sister was the one who explained everything to me when I was about 10, which was nice because I started my period a year after, and the teachers taught us about puberty when I was 10 too. When I have kids I plan on telling them if they ask me. There’s no need to grow up to fast.

Once my mom found out that I knew she got a book and tried expaining things I didn’t know. She was very ehlpful and supportive through the whole ordeal…

P.S. Zorro you crack me up 😀

Sex is an important aspect of being a human. It involves more than a physical act of intercourse with another individual. It also affects the way one feels about themselves as males and females. It also has an impact on some of the choices that are made. This is why I believe it is a great idea for you to speak with your children about sex. I know, for some parents, this can be a complicated time. Children are going to learn about sex somewhere, so it is best that they learn about it from their parents. When is the best time to have this discussion? Well, I believe the best time would be when they hit their preteen/middle school years.

Why Should I Tell My Kids About Sex?
Talking to your child about sex is important as it will help them develop a healthy attitude towards sex. It is also important to speak with them about it so that they can learn about the responsibilities behind it. When you openly discuss this subject with your children, you will be able to provide them with correct information. If they learn it somewhere else, they may develop the wrong information. Learning it elsewhere might not be a good idea as it might not reflect the personal principles and moral values you wish for your children to follow. In addition to this, they need to understand the consequences behind it. Those consequences include pregnancy, diseases and being hurt.

What Should I Tell my Children?
First of all, you should focus on the facts behind sex. Give them the following:
An explanation of reproduction and anatomy in females and males
Sexual intercourse and pregnancy
Fertility and birth control
Sexual orientation including bisexuality, homosexuality and heterosexuality
The emotional and physical aspects of sex
Self – image and peer pressure

Many parents do not feel comfortable with talking to their children about this subject. It may be best for you to practice what you will be saying before you sit down with your daughter or son. Make sure you pay attention and listen. It may help to have both the mother and father for support. Look for opportunities to bring up these issues.

http://wondertime.go.com/parent-to-paren…

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Babysitting for kids

1] start at the beginning
2] teach them the proper words for each body part
3] answer the questions they ask, at the level they ask it
4] answer ALL the questions – if you don’t know the answer, look it up
5] then they will keep asking YOU, and get accurate information, instead of erroneous or even dangerous answers from friends
6] if all else fails, send them to my house
a] My kids have asked me EVERYTHING!!! and they are boys
b] and their friends [ male and female ] have too [ I always tell parents if other people’s kids ask me questions ]

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RN mom

I wasnt told per se, I was wondering what the hell the people on TV were doing! My mother explained that when two people love eachother they “make love” as do dogs, cats, birds, even plants. I was shocked to know that plants have sex, and probably found that the most interesting part trying to wrap my head around :S haha, I think I plan on telling my daughter the same, that it’s what two people do when they are inlove. 🙂 Also, if I had a son, or if I ever do, I will also tell him to be carefull as the stuff that comes out his wing wang produces another human and to not just put that in anyone! And of course, my daughter will be told the same, but without the wing wang part 😛

Yeah this is borderline chatty :/

Well anyway,

I do not HAVE kids but if/when I have children I will tell them about sex normally, and make it as comfortable as possible. I never had any sex talk and dreaded everything that had to do with sex. I ran away from the car when we went bra shopping and in school I was even afraid to say the word chromosome. With my children I would treat sex as if it was no big deal and completely normal. If they ever asked me a question (I never, ever did) I would answer it honestly and if a “talk” had to be made I would do it when my child was 8. I know when I was a child 8 years old was when I would’ve been young enough to still listen, because when I started going through puberty I completely and utterly shut down, so I think this is old enough for a child to understand and yet young enough that they will still listen to you. And in this day and age with children having sex at 12 and whatnot in bad schools I think this is very important! (And no I don’t agree with these crazy parents just blindsighting their children the moment the girl has a period or starts growing hair everywhere and becomes upset at this revelation) I would share all of my sexual experiences with my child and make everything very open, I would keep pads out in the open in case my child ever wants or has to use them and I would not ever force her or embarrass her while bra shopping, I would tell her all the good things about having breasts and do all I can not to make her feel miserable (because puberty is absolutely miserable) even if I had a boy I would still do my absolute best (and maybe ask my doctor for extra tips on the male anatomy) I would tell them how to have sex, and warn them not to do it, of course, tell them about STD’s (not protection, because I don’t want them to have sex, they can ask their school or an obgyn that would be more knowledgable than me anyway if they want to do that) I mean it would be no big deal at all to me, I would just tell them the truth, I would tell them how to have sex and what these parts do, seperate and together and give as much infomation as I can. And as I said, there would never be a talk, sex would be pretty open in my household I think people are only racist, get offended by nudity and swearing, and generally closed minded to any topic because of their religion or someone else’s upbringing. I have no stigma, and my children would be the same. This would not be shameful or weird it would be a no-brainer.

A. Not really a parent’s jurisdiction unless the kid asks them. Kids learn all of this from older siblings, the internet, or cooler friends.
B. let’s not assume there will be no bird & bird/bee & bee situations. lgbt section represent!

Lol at Zorro….

We told/are going to tell our kids the truth about sex in an age-appropriate manner. They’re going to find out the truth eventually, so there’s no point in lying to them.

My daughter is 8 years old now and I started very early in talking to her openly about the human body and the differences between men and women. She used to love sitting with me and talking to me while i was taking a bath. Of course she would notice things and ask questions as any normal child does. I’ve never wanted it to be a taboo subject, nor have i wanted her to be ignorant of the basic facts or to learn things in the girls bathroom at school. (remember the song from The Facts of Life? “if you find out from your brother, better check it with your mother”) I think the real trick is to not be embarrassed about sexuality, because, in reality, it’s very natural. I want her to grow up being comfortable in her own skin.
I had also hoped that she would feel comfortable asking me questions about anything if i told her things in a matter of fact manner. She now knows about her body. She understands about puberty and menstruation and what to expect when she’s older.
Basically the Birds and Bees talk shouldn’t be a horrifying or uncomfortable experience for the parent or child. Start early, be open and honest when your child asks questions and eventually your child will have the basic facts over a few years instead of the “crash course” chat that is mortifying for everyone involved.

The movie “Knocked Up” pretty much will sum it up for my kids when I’m older.

Sadie: Where do babies come from?
Debbie: Where do you think they come from?
Sadie: Well. I think a stork, he umm, he drops it down and then, and then, a hole goes in your body and there’s blood everywhere, coming out of your head and then you push your belly button and then your butt falls off and then you hold your butt and you have to dig and you find the little baby.
Debbie: That’s exactly right.

So they find out. What do they think? “My Mom? My Dad? NO WAY!!!”

Buy ’em a computer.

just be straight with them cause if you don’t someone else might tell them something different it’s better that it come from the parent anyway

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myself i’m a parent myself my mother never told me so yes being straight with your child is the best choice

As a parent of young children I have already explained some things about “the birds and the bees” to my kids. They are only ages 2 and 4, but I don’t plan to have a talk…rather elaborate more about sex to them as they get older…in small doses.