I turn 21 in about a month. My wishful thinking is that I’m just a bored teenager who just likes to get drunk sometimes. But I have a LOT of red flags.
I have a DUI, and sometimes I get crazy when I’m sh*t faced. There is a fine line though. I can have a LOT of drinks and be absolutely fine. The only times when I piss people off is when I drink hard alcohol, because I love the burning feeling it gives me and I just over-do myself and then it catches up to me later, and then I regret it. And a lot of times I get frustrated when there’s not enough for me to drink. But then my meditative mind ensures me that it’s okay and there’s nothing I can do about it, then I’m fine and just let it go! So… WTF!
whenever I drink wine or beer though I am always great and enjoyable and NEVER cause a goofy, outrageous scene. I just can’t handle the hard stuff – as much as I love it.
see this is very confusing and frustrating to me. The term “alcoholic” increasingly pisses me off to be honest, because it seems to me that there are different levels of it, and IDK where the f*ck I’m at. I am functional, and make decisions on when is the smartest, correct, non-risky time to take that first drink, but once I do, I will drink until I pass out. Because I love the feeling!
But I also love being sober too, I just love life in general, but sometimes I feel like an alcoholic because I just love getting f*cking drunk a lot because it feels great to get loose! I guess I’m too young to tell…. But any thoughts or relations from you guys would be appreciated!
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Well, I’m not saying you’re an alcoholic, but since you’re concerned enough to ask, you might have a drinking problem, which hopefully is just a phase, because you’re showing the signs of slipping into one. And it depends on how often you drink, and what you’re drinking. But if you like blacking out, that’s a big problem, and dangerous too. Anything could happen and you would have no memory of it.
Replace the term alcoholic with abnormal drinker and see how it fits. Normal or temperate drinkers can have a drink or two and maybe even not finish that second or third drink. When you’re four beers in, are you just getting primed?
Personally, I have no “off switch” when it comes to drinking. Once I start a compulsion for more begins.
If you were locked overnight in a bar room, would you go to sleep or would you pass out?
I don’t agree that there are different levels of alcoholism. You either are one or you’re not. There are certainly different stages that can be identified pretty easily, but it’s also a very linear path through which these stages progress. You’re young and you haven’t gotten to the stage where you’re throwing up in the afternoon because you *haven’t* had a drink. It’s still fun for you.
I believe every alcoholic has to experience a bottom of some sort before they ever want to quit. Everyone’s is different because everyone’s tolerance for bullshit, drama, misery, and pain is different.
If you are an alcoholic, and I say IF because only you can decide that, I hope your bottom is hard and soon so that you can get on the road to recovery sooner rather than later. Abnormal drinkers WILL create problems for themselves when they drink. When you start screwing up school, jobs, or relationships and alcohol is a factor, please listen to me on this: ASK FOR HELP. It is so hard to do by yourself. It was impossible for me and for many many people I know. Find an AA meeting and just go for a month. You’ll find some great people who all know a thing or two about partying.
I hope you’re not an alcoholic, but if you decide you are, admit it to yourself and don’t pick up that first drink. If you find yourself unable to NOT pick up a drink, RUN, don’t walk, to an AA meeting and talk to another drunk. You’ll be absolutely amazed when you hear your own story coming out of someone else’s mouth.
All of the advice below in the last two paragraphs is from an online source.
This part is from my experience. I am an recovering alcoholic. I was just like you meaning my drinking was fun and I didn’t want to stop. This was despite the fact that I had two DUI’s, crashed and destroyed one car where it was a miracle I wasn’t killed,caused another at fault accident, lost 5 jobs, spent an entire Christmas and New Years holiday season as a patient in a Glenbeigh facility in Ohio the year my first grand child was born, was sentenced to 15 days in jail, lost my drivers license twice, was locked out of my own home, had almost lost my HOME to foreclosure and pissed away who knows how much money on booze. It doesn’t matter what you drink, it’s that you need to drink and are willing to pay the price for your actions while drinking. The positive is that you are starting to question your motives with your drinking and that there are plenty of help options in your community.
Online resources give us this important info:
(1) Do you have to drink a lot more than you used to in order to get buzzed or to feel relaxed? Can you drink more than other people without getting drunk? These are signs of tolerance, which can be an early warning sign of alcoholism. Tolerance means that, over time, you need more and more alcohol to feel the same effects.
(2) You don’t have to be homeless and drinking out of a brown paper bag to be an alcoholic. Many alcoholics are able to hold down jobs, get through school, and provide for their families. Some are even able to excel. But just because you’re a high-functioning alcoholic doesn’t mean you’re not putting yourself or others in danger. Over time, the effects will catch up with you.
(3) Denial is one of the biggest obstacles to getting help for alcohol abuse and alcoholism. The desire to drink is so strong that the mind finds many ways to rationalize drinking, even when the consequences are obvious.
I pray that you find the right answers.
Source(s): www.helpguide.org/…/alcohol_abuse_alcoholism_signs_effects_treat
I am turning 25 in several days, and I feel totally neutral about whether I will drink or not on any given day. I enjoy it, but its not THAT important. I will have friends over, and they will be drinking, but I know alcohol will not be a big focus for me, and will absolutely NOT lead to any negative consequences for me. This is CERTAIN
TAKE THESE 3 STEPS:
1. Avoid the word “Alcoholic” for now. That label isn’t something that will improve your life at the moment.
2. The most important thing is to be completely HONEST with yourself about your drinking.
The moment you cross-over into DENIAL, (in my opinion) is the moment you become an ALCOHOLIC
3. Every time you go out, drink with a sense of SELF-RESPECT so you know you are doing it to have FUN in a SAFE, HONEST, way.
If you ALWAYS follow these tips, and still end up hurting your self or others, you are PROBABLY an ALCOHOLIC
Source(s): Close Relationships With Recovered Drug Addicts / Alcoholics
Personal Experience
AA literature
Common Sense
I’m not going to lie and pretend I read this, because I didn’t it’s too long.. but chances are if you have to ask then you may very well be an alcoholic. There are different levels and some are more extreme.
I think you maybe. The best people to ask are AA. I know ther are many types of alchoholism and Im sure they would be happy to help.
You must be because you are 20 and think you are a bored teenager…get help!
Yes, you are an alcoholic.
Only you can decide if you need to change this.
I won’t nag you.
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