As of right now I feel terrible for invading the privacy of my ex, yet I feel angry and hurt for what I found.
I was in a relationship with a beautiful older woman (15 years older) and it was a great relationship, she had a lot of baggage and I was really a fresh breath of.air compared to the guys she had dated.before. It was a great mature relationship full of much love and sex. We lasted only 9 months, sadly due to money problems and we both had to get out lives straight and having the relationship was one more thing to take care of. So we painfully broke up on good terms, not because we hated each other or because we didn’t love each other, it was just so we can get out lives straight.
Although we broke up on good terms I have been feeling empty and angry, I just can’t helpt it, I opened myself to someone and made myself very vulnerable (something I really do not do) just so money problems could ruin my relationship (were both currently unemployed and have been having problems finding employment)
Last night I was feeling jealous to the thoughts of my ex’s past (thing i knew bout her before we became a couple, we were good friends beforehand) and how she could be having a one.night stand right now since she’s single (something she also did a lot beforehand), so I sadly snooped into her fb and found many messages of her ad her friends, no.biggie, then I found.messages of her and a booty call she had in Mexico (where she had gone recently before we hooked up, I knew about the guy and details of the trip, like i said we were good friends) and she was telling him how she’s had multiple sex dreams of him and how the most recent was so awesome she had to tell him, then how she misses him, and last but not least she called him mi amor (which means my love). I got very shocked to read that, she understands what that means (I’ve taught her Spanish) and to top it off this was all 5 days or so before we broke up.
So now I’m torn on what I should do. I feel horrible
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Move on with your life. Types like her are like cranberrys at thanksgiving. Every guy takes a little and passes it on. But nobody wants cranberrys for the rest of their lives do they? You had a long fling nothing more. Yes it hurts but live and learn. The fact that she told you about her one night stands speaks volumes,she is very open and very sexual. These type of woman don’t make good partners trust me!