I am 18 and I have questioned my sexuality for about 6 years, since I was in the 6th grade.
I have been sexually attracted to guys in the past, but lately I’m finding them less and less appealing, well, to put it this way, I don’t really find men that attractive anymore. I have been in a few relationships with guys, and I can safely say that I have never gotten any sort of enjoyment out of kissing or being touched by guys. I’ve never kissed a girl so I don’t have anything to really compare to.
The realization that I might be gay hit me a few days ago after I woke up from having a naughty dream. This wouldn’t have been so alarming except for the fact that it had been about another woman, who just happens to be one of my closest friends. This wasn’t the first naughty dream that I’ve had about another woman, but it was the first one that I wasn’t disturbed by.
But I am disturbed by the fact that I actually enjoy fantasizing about her. I have developed this infatuation with her (well I guess it was already there, I just didn’t want to admit it to myself) and I can’t seem to shake it. The worst part about it is that she is my friend and I have to see her and talk to her, and I know her so well.
Because I really do know her. I know her flaws, but I also know her strengths. And I’m really scared because I now realize that I find every bit of her attractive (physically, and emotionally) even all her flaws.
And I am tortured because I can’t tell her any of this because I am afraid to lose what we already have as friends… But then there is this part of me that wonders whether maybe she is gay too. In all the years I have known her, she has never had a boyfriend, or shown any interest in any guys at school. she has expressed how attractive she finds some famous men. But I also find certain men to be attractive. So does this mean that I am Bi?
I am so confused and scared. Please help :/
Also, what should I do? Should I tell her?
Update:
I’m really scared to tell her. But I hate feeling this way. 🙁
I have never been very girly, I was sort of a tomboy growing up, but I did occasionally enjoy dressing p and looking pretty. I also have never really cared about my appearance. It’s just something that never really mattered to me. I mean it’s not like I’m completely gross looking, I just don’t wear makeup or fix my hair (but I brush my hair) every day.
Oh, and I forgot to mention that my immediate family is very supportive and that they would love me no matter who I loved. But my extended family would probably disown me, as they are extremely religious and they have expressed to me multiple times how much they dislike gay people. But that doesn’t really bother me, as I do not like my most of my extended family anyway…
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The first step you should take is solving the mystery. Does she feel the same? There are many ways to test her and come to a conclusion without actually asking upfront, because if you are wrong it could hurt the relationship. How clingy is she towards you? Does she ever seem intimidated by your presence? How does she talk about male celebrities? Is it sexual? How does she behave differently around men and women? And mostly how does she treat you as compared to others?
You really is just not scared. It is who you might be, and also you can not exchange that. If you are nonetheless questioning, simply be patient considering you’ll ultimately discover what you rather want. You should be happy with who you are, and you should understand that you are not the one younger teen that’s expierencing the identical thing as you might be. I am going to excessive school, and a pair women my age have ‘come out’ and all that. Definite, men and women decide and say what they want, however you fairly mustn’t let it result you. Simply enjoy existence and live it as much as how you need it to be! For the crisis with your mother and father, i am not relatively sure, but you would invariably have a major speak at a time when they are in a just right temper. I am certain that it doesn’t matter what, they may love you.
No don’t tell chances are it will go the wrong way but you are probably bi. I had the same problem and just settled with no telling her or anyone else and deciding I was bi.
Source(s): Had the same exact problem
This question and these answers have actually helped ME. So thank you for asking this question. I can relate in a lot of ways 🙂
i could provide some help… i COULD. and it seems like you need it. but when you were in my shoes… all you did was be cruel, so what the fuk u lezbo
You shouldn’t be scared. Lesbians don’t have AIDS like gays do