im very skeptic about long lasting love as from what i see everytime from people around me and even celebrities, and my own parents they are all not happily married. they end up divorced, separated and cheating each other. it is very difficult to imagine how two people who are madly inlove ended up cheating or no longer inlove and happy in their marriages. now i am afraid to marry and fail just like them. same time i dont want to grow old alone and i am very coward to try. they say our destinies are different and not everything i see will also happen to me. whenever i see old couples holding and embracing each other, i feel jealous than seeing young couples who are very sweet. those old couples for sure have experience the ups and downs of their relationship and are very successful in dealing with them. do you know anyone who are still inlove at their old age and are still together?what could be their secrets of staying happy and inlove forever?is there any websites that i could read on about true stories of long lasting love?is there any simple activity that any couple could try to relive their feelings for each other and be happy?like for example, a couple headed to a counselor arguing and wanted to have divorce, after saying bad traits of each other, the counselor gave them paper to write down the good things they like about each other, after that activity, they ended together again. any activity like this?thanks
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First things first, I’m sure you know that you will probably never find the perfect person. That one person who has all the attributes and traits that you’re looking for. So, once you realize that you should also know that the person that you do find will have some traits or perks which you will either won’t stand or will have to make peace with.
Besides communication, selflessness, caring for each other, etc…learning to live and to find a middle ground on things with your partner is very important. Once you get past that, and of course he/she gets past that about yours, you find that you have a person who will always have your back, who truly loves you and wants your needs to be met….maybe even before his/her needs.
All that takes time and lots and lots of work. It’s not an overnight thing. Marriages crumble for a lot of things. Many times one stops appreciating the other, or there’s some unforgiven or non forgotten thing that still drive a wedge in between……so many reasons!…and then bam!, one cheats on the other.
I heard that people ‘in love’ don’t cheat. I believe it to be true. I’ve never been faithful to any of my GFs until my last one. It got to a point when I’d much rather spend my time with her and her hugs than banging some hot italian MILF, I stopped then and knew that this GF was exactly what I wanted.
Don’t be too scared about what you see around you. There are success stories out there. I know of a few in my life and when I posted this same question of yours a few weeks ago, I got many responses from people who said that they were truly happy in their marriages even after being married for many many years.
You find someone and do not get the heart involved just yet, use your logic first….then, if you see that this person is worth a damn, let that heart show up bit by bit (how much is your choice but BE CAREFUL). If he/she reciprocates accordingly then, let things flow naturally.
Don’t be like some dummies out there who marry because the ‘sex was good’ or because they were on a ‘rebound’ or they just didn’t want to be alone. This is a recipe for disaster later on.
Give it time, be selective, and gauge if the person is worthy of you. And of course, see if you are worthy of that person also.
Good luck
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There is such a thing as long lasting love. I have it.
The thing you have to be careful of is that “love” takes on many forms. I would claim to love my wife, my father, my country, lasagna and soccer. However, my love for these things is different.
As for my experience, my love for my wife is different than it was 20 years ago. Back then, it was more of an infatuation. But as the years pass, the love takes on different forms. I can’t envision a life without her now, even though we are both no longer in our 20’s.
I think it’s definitely possible. You just have to find the guys that aren’t shallow and who aren’t more interested in sex than relationships. There are a lot of guys out there that just want to hook up, but there are also the non-promiscuous ones who want to find love and settle down just like everyone else. Also its been done.. many times. You probably just don’t know anyone in particular
Greetings …
Everyone has troubles with their own-self …not happy with this, that, and the other …
This can be in any mode, whether it be of thinking, feeling, weight, height, looks, etc …
So therefore, there will always be troubles with others …
Civilised communication is surely beneficial for anyone …
Un-conditional love for your-self first … and then …
Un-conditional love for your partner …
When you meet your Twin-Soul, your Twin-Flame, then life and love will be a most wondrous partnership indeed …
I wish thee well … and I am sure you will be an lovely apple in someones eye one day … 🙂
Love, peace and goodwill to you … michael 🙂