im 21 and my boyfriend is 23 and not ready to have a child. i have previously terminated 3 pregnancies in the past and dont think i am prepared for another one. my family is supportive of me having the child but my partner thinks im selfish to bring a child into the world without his approval. Is it wrong to have the baby…?
Update:
im currently pregnant and my partner is not ready to have a child, the pregnancy was unplanned so this has come as quite a shock to us both. i have previously had 3 pregnancies terminated in the past and im concerned this could affect my chances of concieving in the future. i have told my boyfriends my cocerns however he seems to think i got pregnant so easily this time that it shouldnt be a problem in the future… i really want to have this child but he told me he wants no part of it… However he keeps telling me its selfish to bring a child into this world knowing that the father didnt want it…
Is it wrong for me to have this baby?
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✅ Answers
Your partner is the one who is being profoundly selfish. He is expecting you to go on extinguishing the lives of unborn babies that you conceive just so that he can go on enjoying himself. If you have terminated three pregnancies before this it is time that you put your foot down very firmly and said “NO”.
This is the child that I plan to have. This is the child that I am going to have. This is the child that you are not going to make me give up. Tell him “I am going ahead with this pregnancy”. Also, repeated abortions can damage you to the extent that you are not able to conceive. So it would be advisable to have this child and if you are going to have another – then have it also – but not another abortion. It doesn’t do the lining of the womb any good.
If your boyfriend does leave you and you have the support of your family then bring the child up with their love and support. You are right to have this child and in no way should you be forced to give it up.
There is an interesting book written by and ABC producer Vanessa Gorman called Losing Layla. http://www.vanessagorman.com/documentary.htm Her partner was just like yours in attitude. She had a termination to please him. She didn’t want to do it but did. Then when she got pregnant again he didn’t want the baby but she had a little girl. The little girl died only a few hours afterwards from complications with the birth. This was Layla. He was never really supportive of her during the pregnancy or birth. He then left her. She found another partner who was willing to have children and they had two lovely healthy children. You may find the hard copy in your local library.
I hope that reading this gives you the courage to continue as men can be extremely selfish.
Good Luck!!!
I can’t believe your so selfish to have terminated THREE babies and thinking about doing it again! I have been trying to get pregnant for 3 years now with no success! You should be thankful you can even get pregnant so easy. Other people aren’t so fortunate! As for your boyfriend he is just a big immature idiot! Your story is sad but it’s also all your fault! Why don’t you use protection so you won’t be in this dilemma for 9th, 10th, or even 11th time!!!
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easy answer, use protection? if you dont want a child in the first place then use a condom, i personally think you should have the baby since you had aborted so many, think if it as learning from your mistake, dont get me wrong i am not saying the child is a miskate but its your baby at the end of the day regardless if he wanted one, you TWO created a life, it takes TWO to tango so live wiv the consiquences because NEITHER of you took precautions of using ANY protection and bringing a defenceless child into this awful mess.
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It’s wrong of him to pressure you to have an abortion. He is not the only one dealing with mixed emotions right now. I was where you are right now also. I kept my son. He is now six and is everything to me. His father and I split up when he was around two. As he obviously wasn’t a great man. My son is happy, still sees his father (who has somewhat come around, he’s still a loser as far as I’m concerned), has a wonderful step father who he adores, and a baby sister on the way. We couldn’t be happier.
Make the decision that is right for YOU. Men come and go. And this one doesn’t seem worth your while. As he can’t bring himself to support you in your time of need.
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This is a conversation you should have had before you got pregnant. If you are ready for a baby, but your partner is not, I would suggest getting rid of the partner.
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I dont think its selfish of you to want to have this baby without his apporval. You are going to be the one carrying it and taking care of it if he decides not to help. If you have the support of your family then you can do it
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it would be selfish for you to take another humans life just because your moron boyfriend isnt ready..he doesnt have to be ready…its what you think..he should have thought about it before he slept with you..
dont kill your innocent baby because your boyfriend isnt ready
that child should have a place in this world just like you
he or she doesnt deserve to be killed because of selfishness
and yes..it is killing..murder whatever you want to call it.
and its wrong
do as you partner says
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wow 3?!?!?!?!?!?!?!??!?!??!?!?!?!?!?!!?!??!?! THATS SO SAD :(!
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