My daugther is 11 yrs old and has 3rd degree burns on both her arms (from her hands to her shoulders). I know it is my responsibility to just BE THERE for her everyday when she has issues with it (kids teasing her at school, etc), but to be honest, some days I just know that I AM CRYING ON THE INSIDE, because it is so HEARTBREAKING to see her go through this. How do you STAY STRONG for yourself, and your child, in this situation? I know I have to accept this; but, I am human too and this is my baby!
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best thing to do is keep helping her with pain management.
Just being there is all you can do. You can’t live her life, and you can’t understand how deeply this affects her. She’ll learn to be strong on her own. These are the tough years, but just keep doing what you’re doing!
I’ve been there. I’ll be back later today to add some detail.
It’s like going into battle. You can’t get too far ahead of yourself. Take each days struggles and face them head on. You and your daughter will steadily make progress.I’m sure there are parents in your local area who have formed contact groups. Do a little research and you’ll find that you aren’t as alone as you think you are. You can lean on each other.
Sounds like she has a great mother.You hang in there and God Bless.
You have my sympathy & you are an incredibly strong women. Stay strong for your daughter. You will both get through this.
My nephew was autistic but we never thought of him as anything but a joy.
And growing up, several kids had polio – crutches & wheelchairs in class & everywhere. We never even thought of teasing them. It was just the way it was & I remember being thankful for being spared their ordeal. They always played with us as did the several…retarded, we called them in our day. Never would we make fun of them. I don’t understand how that changed.
I GATHER MY DAUGHTER”S STRENGTH………
She is going blind. I’ve had days when I can’t move because it hits me like a ton of bricks. But every little thing she does with this impairment is a milestone to me!
The only thing kids have teased her about is that she looks sideways at them (her response: who are they that I have to explain myself to them?), and she has an enormous backpack to carry all of her supplies around in. When I bought it for her, I told her that she may get made fun of for it…. she said”Ooh, I have a big backpack…. is that the best they can do?”
But above all else, I don’t let her see when it hurts me. She is strong, and can handle it, but if she saw mine and my husband’s sadness about it, it might drain her strength and confidence, and cause her to feel sorry for herself.
I say, absolutely let your feelings out….. but to a support group, not to her. And every day, when she gets home, tell yourself “That’s my baby girl….. and she made it, strong, through another day!”.
And give her tons of hugs and kisses!
The best to you!
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