My 17 year old brother-in-law informed last night that his girlfriend was 5 months pregnant. Her legal guardians will not let him see her and so he wouldn’t be able to see the baby plus she is only 16. Her legal guardians are going to make her put the baby up for adoption. My husband and I have been trying for a baby with no success so I told him we would adopt her. I’m 22 years old and my husband is 20. We have our own house in Wayne,WV. We make plenty of money. I was wondering what we need to do to be able to adopt?
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The mother wants to have the baby in her life but she says she cant take care of the baby and wants to have someone adopt her….that is why I said we would because we want a baby and they could still be in there daughter’s life.
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If her guardians ‘make’ her give the baby up for adoption that is called coercion and morally wrong. If you adopt the baby then that makes you worse than them as you know she is being coerced so I hope you are ashamed of yourself. Do the decent thing and let her move in, encourage her to be a mother and be an aunt and uncle to her baby.
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Maybe the first thing would be to take a step back. The mother wants her baby, so it is better to think of the baby as unadoptable, but in need of foster parents. Are you willing to take care of the baby, without any pretending that you gave birth to it? If so, look what is necessary in the interest of the baby, and get that done, but nothing more. Adoption is a process that destroys and creates, but the destruction may be too much to impose on a defenseless child. If possible, let the child grow up with his or her birthrights intact. Discrimination against adopted people is a sad reality in quite some states in the USA, if you can keep the baby unadopted, it’s to be preferred.
You should ask the mother to visit a site like www.adoption-truth.com. Get yourself and her informed, please, she is too young for this.
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Your brother-in-law will have legal rights to this child as his father, so the guardians won’t be able to prevent him from having visitation. And the baby can’t be adopted by anyone without his consent, so there’s no way the guardians can force her to give him up.
Now on to the important question: Does the mother want to give up her child? Her guardians may try to bully and coerce her, but surely you wouldn’t want to take a baby away from a mother who really wants him, if that turns out to be the case?
Until you’ve talked to the mother yourself (to find out what _she_ wants, not to persuade her to give her baby up), and until she’s been provided with impartial legal counsel explaining her rights, it’s a bit early to make plans to adopt her child.
After the baby is born, the mother and father can sign guardianship over to you. You can buy the form on Rocketlawyer.com. After that you can go through a lawyer for them to terminate their parental rights and you to adopt. Six months to a year later, you will receive a modified birth certificate listing you and your husband as the legal parents. There is little you can do legally before birth.