sorry for the length of this, but your advice would be so greatly appreciated!
So there is this guy who has liked me for two and a half years. He is super shy around me, like really really shy. However, during the first year he liked me, my friend was talking to him and one of his friends about who they’ve hooked up (kissed) with in the past, and the guy who likes me said my name, and his friend asked him how it was too like it had happened when it definitely has not happened.
A couple of days ago however, a whole year and a half later from the whole thing, another one of his friends came up to me at school and was like “remember a year ago when there was a rumour going around that you and (the guy who likes me) hooked up” and i was like yeaaaaah and we laughed about it, then he asked if it hurt me (being sincere because it was a rumour that didnt happen).
But the thing that i do not get, is after he had said all that, he exclaimed “because it was me and my friend (not the guy who likes me another guy) that made it up, it was meant to be a joke”. we just laughed about it! but i dont know if he meant a ‘rude’ joke or like they did it to embarrass their friend because his shy around me, but it wouldnt have been a rude joke if they knew their friend liked me would it? also, if the guy who liked me was the one to actually say that he had supposedly hooked up with me, would he be in on it, like why would you want to do that in the first place?
thank you soooo much 🙂 x
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Men at times are hard to figure out.
It sounds like you’re making dating choices mainly based upon whether someone likes you and you like them. Unfortunately the number of broken hearts from using this approach to dating is in the billions.
May I suggest that the first question to ask yourself when considering whether or not to date someone is, “Is this person a strong person?” If they’re not, no matter how much you like them, how much they like you, or how “cute” or “hot” they are, – please don’t date them. A strong person has good character (honesty, integrity, trustworthiness), a positive attitude (cheerful, caring, friendly, forgiving, helpful, and respectful), fulfills their responsibilities (for handling pains in a positive way, for always trying to make a good choice, for taking care of themselves, for serving others), puts forth their best effort, and displays self-control (of their body, anger, tongue and money).
My suggestion is that you put in the effort necessary to become a strong person (if you’re not already), forget about all of these guys unless one is a strong person, and eventually look for this type of guy (otherwise you are setting yourself up for a broken heart). Unfortunately this type of man is difficult to find – but save yourself the heartache and don’t settle for less.
(Please remember that you eventually want a 40, 50, or 60 year marriage – not a 5 or 10 year marriage.)
Hope this helps!
Source(s):
Before You Get Naked – written from a secular perspective ages preteen-young adult (new)
Straight Talk About Teen Dating – written from a Christian perspective ages preteen-19
Straight Talk About Dating – written from a Christian perspective ages 20 and up