Ok me and my mans history is this. We have known one another for about 20 years i know his whole family. We messed around years ago but nothing to serious. Well one day his sister (we were best friends) tells me he wants my number he was locked up. So anyway he calls the following day I go see him at the halfway house. Now on the stregth that I knew him like that thats why i did anyone else i would have not been beat for the jail stuff. So anyway we started a realationship I went to see him every visit for the rest of his bid about a little over a year. Made sure he had his clothes when he got released everything. I was there for him the only one his family maybe went to see him a couple of times. So anyway he gets out moves in with me am taking him back and fourth to his parole and his program. Taking him to find a job filling out his apps for him. Everything filing legal papers for paternity test for a child he was paying support for when the girl openly told everyone it wasn’t his child and guess what it wasn’t. So anyway there is alot to say but let me get down to it cause i could go on. What would you do if you loved a person I mean truly loved a person but they have cheated on numerous times (it has been confirmed) has in the past gave you an std. Got a female pregnant (so she says) That right there was crazy cause the chic showed up over my house and am a woman am not for the fighting i wanted to hear the truth so we all had a convo and he just played and in front of me in her face told her “i told you before i don’t want and never wanted a relationship with you am never leaving my woman and i just wanted you for sex and to top me off and you knew that” she repled with yeah i did know that but what you thought i wouldnt’ catch feelings? Anyway she supposely lied and used a girl from the job pee for a test she is actually locked up now so its nothing with her. But anyway he as been moving funny lately so i decieded to be on my p.i. checked his voice and some chic on there talking bout you got me out here waiting. This was yesterday and his early day at work needless to say i called the number back and asked her whats going on. She said don’t even worry about it cause she felt like he had someone . Anyway i approached him in a way not to let him know i checked his voice mail (yeah am wrong for that but am saying ) he denied everything. What do i do we have known each other damn near our whole life been together for the last 4 going on 5.
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This dude is straight up using you. So what you have a twenty year history, obviously it means nothing to him, nor the fact that you and his sis are so tight. Drop kick this mofo to the curb immediately. Chalk it up to a lesson learned. This is a classic, a lot of guys in jail do this, they hook up with a woman on the outside and use her as a landing pad for when they get out. This man has cheated and given you and STD, and you need more reasons to leave? Ask yourself why are you really staying with this man. How can you love someone who does these things to you and lies. That is not real love. Get rid of this guy, learn to love yourself, because you can’t be loving yourself and be with a man like this.
Learn to know what being treated right is. A good man would not allow a woman to drive him everywhere and do everything for him, unless it’s his mama. He is a loser. By doing everything for him and letting him stay with you, maybe it gives you a sense of control and power, but in a real relationship, both people have their feet on the ground and on equal footing. I know it’s hard out there, but try a relationship with a man who is working and established. This man is major project, that once you get done overhauling him (if that’s even possible…. he can’t fill out his own job apps?), he will most likely leave you for someone else anyway, get rid of him before he gives you and STD you can’t cure.
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