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Many parents believe that discipline and punishment are the same thing. This has two unfortunate effects: some parents always discipline by punishment, and other parents, afraid to punish, don’t use any discipline at all. Both of these parenting styles result in children who don’t know how to self-discipline, which is really the goal of parenting — teaching children how to decide what is right and wrong by themselves. This can be done by treating your child like a human being who needs to learn how the world works — explain to them the consequences of their actions and why certain behaviors are acceptable and others aren’t. Telling a child to do something “just because I say so” teaches them nothing.
I think that this is a reflection of the deep cultural changes that happened in this country during the 1960s.
During the 1950s, you had a generation of children called the Baby Boomers. They were raised by ultra-conservative, strict parents. Their parents were also very tightlipped about things like sex and drugs.
Then the Baby Boomers– when they became teenagers and young adults in the 1960s– rebelled against the strict and authoritarian lifestyles of their parents, claiming that it was either psychologically damaging or inhibitive in some ways. They indulged in that old cliche of “sex, drugs, and rock and roll” and created a more permissive society in the late 60s-late 70s.
The Baby Boomers in turn raised a generation of kids with the attitude that children shouldn’t be *inhibited* by rules or *kept* from knowing certain things. Otherwise, they might grow up *sheltered* or psychologically damaged. Now the children of the Baby Boomers are adopting the same attitude of their parents, being extremely permissive with their own kids. They don’t want to be *strict*, claiming that somehow if they are, this will damage or shelter their children somehow.
The reason why this generation of Americans don’t see the harmful effects of this is that they continuously bury their heads in the sand about it. When kids do things like rape or kill each other (yes, this has happened!), they claim “Kids are growing up faster today,” as if this phenomenon had nothing to do with their childrearing practices. (They deny it.) When you try to point out how being too permissive can be damaging, they argue that their kids should be allowed to watch or play violent video games and movies, because if they didn’t, “that would be sheltering them from the Real World.”
So you really can’t win in trying to change their minds about this issue… Sad, but true.
I think many modern parents are too permissive in some ways and too restrictive in others.
Many parents won’t let their kids do anything that could possibly give them a skinned knee, but think nothing of putting them in front of video games all day or letting them watch junk on T.V.
This is just selfishness on the part of the parent. Video games are an easy babysitter. And letting the kid play outside might require you to go out too and monitor them. Heaven forbid!
I know a child who’s mother gives her anything just to keep her quiet but then turns around and explodes on the child when the whinning gets irritating. This is cruel because she’s the one training the child to be a whinner.
i think that a parent that is so over protective of their child is crazy you have to let kids be kids let them get dirty, jump raMPS WITH THERE BIKES,, PLAY WITH A SLING SHOT,, THROW SNOWBALLS, WHAT DID YOU DO WHEN YOU WERE A CHILD. OF COURSE IT HAs harmful affects to harmful to even dicuss , iknew a beautiful 14 year old child and she had no one to hang around with her school freinds were to far away she had no sisters or brothers she couldnt be a child because she was so lonely no one to play with but if you dont ley your childern be kids well you will fall into promblems
Greed, fear of Authorities, fear of the child, wantin’ to be the child’s friend, Bad Theory, Passin’ up the Jonses, not just keepin’ up.
The reasons could go on and on.
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