Sometimes, when I ask my mother or, stepfather to do something for me, they say: ‘ they don’t have time.’
But, whenever they ask me to do something for them, if I’m busy with something, or,if I have something I need to do, for something that happens in less than two minutes, I tell them, “I don’t have time, Then they just say: “Then, you’d better get started.”
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I remember this used to make me so angry when my parents would do this to me when I was teenager/child. I always thought “Why do they never have time, why do they never do anything for me, and why do I always have to jump at a dime’s notice for them?”
Well, when I got older, I realized they do everything for me. They paid for me, they cared for me, they bought me anything I wanted, and all they asked in return was for me to do the dished for them or dust the family room, it was a pretty unfair return, I have to say.
The only time they didn’t ask me was when I was running late, or when I was doing homework. You have to realize they have jobs, they’re tired, they just want you to do something little for them that won’t take long.
I’m totally with the above poster. I hated it when I was younger too, but you’ll understand when you’re older.
However, you could try to atleast make things a little easier between you guys. For example, you could ask them to let you know a little earlier so that you can have the opportunity to do it at a more convenient time for you. If these tend to be the same things over and over (i.e. dishes, taking the trash out), you can ask them to make a list of things that they would like you to do and stick it on the refrigerator…that way you can do them at your pace throughout the day from the time you get home until bed. They may actually see it as you being more responsible and eventually cut you some slack when you need it.
Another important question is: what are they asking of you, what are you asking of them, and how are they/you asking? When you say they deny you, are you asking “Can you run and get me a bag of chips for the game tonight?” in a rude tone? Or are you asking “Hey mom, can you buy some Doritos the next time you go to the store?” When they ask you to do something, is it the first time they’re asking you, or the 5th? Are these things that they ask of you regularly and that you really should be chipping in with anyway? How much time does it really take out of your schedule to do it? If it’s taking the trash out, it shouldn’t get in your way.