I am 20 and fancy my 16 year old stepsister. I live in the UK. She does not know how i feel about her and i really hate myself for feeling this way about her. I really want to tell her how i feel but i know it would destroy my family if i did. My problem is i don’t have a lot of friends (who are girls) the only girls i know are really her and the girls at work who are all taken and i don’t have the confidence to meet new people. I don’t think it is illegal me fancying her as she is not a blood relation and she is 16? I get really depressed about the whole situation as i don’t want to upset anyone which is what would happen if i said something but it is destroying me feeling how i am feeling and i am getting more deppressed week after week and don’t know what to do. Sorry if i have gone on a bit! Any ideas on what i should do?
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For me,if I ever met someone step sibling,step anything or half anything even if we share no blood at all but have one family member in common, I stay clear of them.
You could think about it, but its not right.Besides that whole shes 16 and youre 20, its the fact that youre FAMILY. And it doesnt just hurt you,it hurts everyone-your whole family.
Just stay clear-dont get in that situation
Oh, dude, I wanna so throw up. You are right to say you ain’t gonna do and say anything as it would mess up the family big style. See your sister as your real baby sister, it’s a good trick to use. I have a step bro and a step sis but i see them as my own real bro and sis. I can’t be bothered using the step becos at the end of the day, they are still my family. For all you know, your sis sees you as a big brother and would want you as a brother who can protect her from dangers.
Anyway, it’s time you move out and get a place of your own. Are you working? At college? Keep going there. If not, try to get a job/college. Take one day at a time, slowly build up your self confidence by thinking positive. It’s a hard long slog to get thru it but if you are determine and a little bit of help from your parents maybe, you will win. If you need extra help, go to your doc, get anti depressants or you can have counseling or use both.
Tell your mom that you feel depressed and YOU don’t know why and see what else advices she can give you? but whatever you say or do, do not mention your feelings for your sister.
Oh one more thing, join a club like sports club, dancing club, computing club, anything to get you out of the house and you can meet new people, boys and girls and thru boys, you mite meet a nice girlfriend so keep an open mind. Oh dude, i so wanna throw up!
whether it is not right with the regulation then do no longer do it…the explanation for that’s because of the psychological technique of a sixteen 365 days previous v.s a 20 365 days previous. At 20 your ideas is almost thoroughly executed maturing yet on the age of sixteen you’re able to desire to plenty to enhance…because of the fact of this he’s held in charge. whether you’re comfortable with the dating you does no longer be at fault if ever caught. He has reached the adulthood to understand which you don’t be conscious of greater effective. once you’re youthful you supply each and every thing one hundred% because of the fact your ideas is peaking. Any emotion you have is blown out of proportion and maxed out. i might say which you’re no longer arranged for what an grownup dating holds…it somewhat is already a tragic that youngsters attempt to enhance as much as quickly mutually yet for a 20 365 days previous to cradle rob a adolescent is incorrect…you will no longer understand now yet later on in existence you will and once you spot a newborn on your place you will tell them the comparable and of their lack of wisdom they’ll forget approximately approximately you. form of like while sons and daughters cut back to rubble and you scold them for no longer understanding greater effective yet they throw a fit because of the fact they think of they are right….
Take a long and very cold shower. If you want to cause a truly massive bust up within your family you have already taken the first step.
Get some of your work friends to take you out and introduce you to their friends. Don’t tell her how you feel otherwise she would probably freak out! Try and take your mind off it and focus on work and relationships with friends. As it’s getting closer to christmas go out more and meet new people. You will find someone, and they will take your mind off her but you have to try and meet new people. Even if you are not confident try, it cant hurt!
no way that would cause too many problems. it only works out in tv shows
hang out with her and some friends so maybe you could start “fancing” one of her friends that act like her but is not related to you
You need counseling, pal!!!! You are 20 and she is 16…….that could lead to you being charged with statutory Rape. Leave her alone……you are a looser and an idiot!!!
I’d leave well alone.
thats gross.