Soo. Im 20 yrs old, and i have a boyfriend of three yrs. . we have been thru ALOT within the three yrs. . He just got me a promise ring recently, and well ive been wanting a baby! Usually he says when hes about 27 then he will think bout it, thats seven yrs from now and i rly dont want to wait seven yrs, nor be almost thirty having my first kid! . . Anyways last nite he was putting bills ” money” into our change container that we had for when we get our own place again, and he says this money we are saving is for our baby. I was rly shocked he said that so i said wat? thinking maybe i mis heard him and he said our unborn baby, if we have one? i said rly, n hes like i dono i dnt want kids. he said do u? when he already knows i want a baby! but hes like idk we will see wat happens. . so im confused. . wat do u guys think should i just sit down w him n discuss having a baby? or wat. . i think its kinda hard on him bc he wrks on the rd and is gone wks at a time. . i need advice plz. THNKS
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dont have a baby until both of yall are really ready to ……….. emotional health is important … comming form someone who grew up with a low self esteem mother and an emotionally shutdown father… research things online about things peopl 18 and under ask on yahoo.. try to get every veiw point of a child or parent…and dont do so until you are really ready or it can be very selfish of your self towords the child…talk to him about how each of you would want to respond to the child i certain situations……. i might be wrong but i would say make sure you have similar boundries and goal for raising a child…… i dont have one….but i know what is like to grow up in a screwed up way… most importantly …i would say talk to him… make sure hes willing to love the child despite any mistakes the child might make and that your willing to do the same too