Would an adopted child feel out of place when all his/her siblings were biological? Would the adopted child feel jealous even if the parents made sure not to show favoritism? Does this ever happen?
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Yes, it happens..I dont think it’s intentional, at least, not most of the time.
Being adopted brings the mixed emotion of feeling special, because you were “chosen”, but also brings up the frequent feelings of not belonging, too……..
(it sucks, but it’s a normal emotion)
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Just a quick question. How would you feel if you were adopted, found out you weren’t a blood relative to anyone in your family and then come to discover that your older sibling doesn’t want anything todo with you because you don’t share the same bloodline? I would be pretty pissed the hell off. I am adopted and have been since birth and it sucks when a family member looks at you and doesn’t treat you like you’re part of the only family you’ve ever known. It’s horrible for you to be this way to a child that has been given up by its biological parents. I’m sure you have a eat friend that you consider a brother or sister even though they aren’t biologically related to you so why on earth would it be any different with your new sibling? Adoption is a wonderful thing. You have to go through so much to adopt now a days. By the way, this may be rude, children who are adopted are actually wanted not an unplanned pregnancy so how do you really feel? Are you pissed because your parents obviously really wanted to give another child a great home? Or the fact that now you’re not going to be te center of attention anymore? Get over it. This baby needs a loving home and if you’re not going to accept your sibling then it’s a wonderful thing for te baby that you’re going to be off to college for its first four years. You can’t do anything about what your parents chose to do. If te child was biologically theirs or not there is absolutely nothing you can do other than grow up and get over it. I’m 20 years old, adopted and have a wonderful husband and a son. I dot know my biological siblings or my birth parents and I was raised as an only child. Consider yourself lucky to have another sibling and one that will love you forever. He or she won’t be able to tell the difference f blood from love and thats how it should be.
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I come from a family that has adopted children and biological. I am biological however, I have NEVER see my parents show any favortism. I think it osley depends onthe type of family, i think you can love any child unconditionally and a family that chooses to adopt should have open arms and hearts to more children.
Also, I babysit for a family that has two little boys on biological and one Chinese. They were told they couldnt have children and plannned an adoption. Then they found out they were pregnant. I spend time with these 2 little boys and their family every day and if it wasn’t for one being Chinese I would have no clue.
I have to mention though that it is possible for favortism or children to feel jealous, but what it comes down to is nuture nad care that the parents provide. Being adopted should never be brought up in a negative situation,. (ex. bio kid saying to adopted kid.. that he is adopted…. ect ect etc)
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I definately think it depends on the children. I was actually in that situation growing up and also am raising a child that isn’t biologically mine but is my husbands. I’ve had him since he was 6 months old though so to me he really is mine. If possible you could wait to tell the other children about the adoption when they are mature enough to understand which is what we are planning to do. That’s assuming the adopted child is the oldest. He also has autism so we don’t think he would understand yet. I never felt that my father favored my siblings over me. Actually I think I was his favorite-LOL! We all still fight over who his favorite is now and we are all grown with our own children. Hope that helps.
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If the biological siblings are half-siblings [as in one parent has remarried and then had “real” children by the new partner], then the answer is an unqualified YES. My adoptive brother and I felt like 2nd class citizens when our father remarried and had biological daughters with his new wife.
If the bio sibs are in the original family and the parents have even a thimble-ful of sense and sensitivity, all of the kids should feel equal and loved. [But take note: teenagers who are upset about something else will throw it up in their parents’ face, whether they are the adopted or biological kids.
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I have four children, two of which are adopted. The biological children are the twins, Hollie and Grace. They are only roughly 5 months as of today. Aiden and Madeline are the adopted ones. Aiden is 7 months and Madeline is one year old, turning two. She definitely does not feel left out and she knows that she was adopted. She loves her little siblings and so does Aiden 😀
Happy families=GOOD 🙂
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I’ve heard of cases where that happened, even when the parents don’t treat the adopted one any differently. Just make sure you make it clear to the other children that the adopted one is no less part of the family.
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That all depends upon the parents. Caring folks who adopt a child will do everything possible to never show any favortism..since they are assuming the role of mother and father to the child. I am sure it DOES happen, but those kind of folks shouldn’t have children!
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It happens a lot. Depending on how many siblings there are, I would sit down with them, in all seriousness and explain everything in full detail and be supportive, as for the adopted child, love them like your own child and be there….favoritism will only cause heartache.
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no, not at all. I’m an adopted child myself and I’ve never felt out of place. I’m not jealous at all and I feel like I’ve been one of the family as long as everyone else. I never think of my old mother and call my new mom by “mom” and I’d never want it any other way. being jealous couldn’t even be a possibility as long as everyone was treated with respect and cared for in the proper and needed ways.
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Kids can be so sensitive, so I think this is a definite possibility. You should always make an effort to spend one-on-one time with each of your children (biological AND adopted) so you can create happy memories each will treasure. Believe me, they’ll remember these moments alone with you, doing an activity unique to that child….
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