I hope I don’t make this sound overly dramatic or anything, but I really feel like I’m back in elementary school again. I’m a junior in high school right now, and there’s a situation that’s going on in my math class that has been bothering me for a couple of weeks. There are two girls who sit next to me in class, one we’ll refer to as Ally and the other as Laura. Freshman year, Ally and I were brief “classroom friends” in Biology; we talked and joked around in that class, but the minute we weren’t in Biology, she would act as if she didn’t know who I was, even though I’d greet her if I saw her in the halls. I slowly just stopped altogether as well, because she hadn’t been responding, and since then we haven’t had a class together or talked…until now. Laura is one of my closer aquiantances, and we don’t have difficulties talking to each other at all.
So sometimes when I get in class, I will greet Laura and we’ll lightly converse; but as soon as Ally comes in, she interrupts me and starts talking to Laura instantaneously; she doesn’t even greet Laura or me with any greeting. She just starts talking. However, when they’re talking and I try to ask a quick question related to math, they seem to not hear me (Well more so, Ally.)
Another time, Ally needed an eraser, and I lent her one. However, she just kept it, and has been referring to it as “her eraser.” I don’t mean to be petty over an eraser, but I’m bothered by the fact that she was completely oblivious to me; I was trying to be nice about it, but it really bothered me. Not to mention that it was a really good eraser.
Lately I feel like they don’t like me; I find myself repeating myself twice, being ignored when asking a question, and just kind of like I don’t exist. Don’t get me wrong; they must be nice people because my friends who know them says they’re alright. But now my question is: Is this my fault? Is it my personality or the way I am? Am I too quiet? I admit to being an insecure, usually kept person, and I’m aware that I’m not the best at socializing. But what Ally and Laura are doing to me, I can’t make out whether its deliberate or not… This has happened to me before, with different people and in different classrooms, but I never know how to deal with it! Please give me some advice on how I can cope with it. I hate walking into a classroom and feeling miserable because of these kinds of situations. Thank you.
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Then make new friends. Don’t hang around people who treat you like crap. Be by yourself if you have to you will make new friends for sure. School is just temporary, once you finish with school you can start living in the real world and forget those horrible people you were stuck with in class. If you have a hard time socializing find a hobby you can do after school so you can meet new people and make new friends. Find something you like doing. Like a photography course, painting, theater, fitness, language course, etc. Acting classes would be the best thing for you to give you more confidence and allow you to develop your communication skills. Ask your parents of course if they would allow you and pay for it. You can also get a job if you are old enough.
You need to get into the real world because once school is over it will be difficult if you continue being insecure and not being able to socialize. I’m speaking from experience here. Education alone does not guarantee you will be successful in life or you will get hired for a job. You need to have more skills and not only a degree.
you need new friendz
Just by your writing I can tell that you are very intelligent, so don’t feel like you are being fooled. I suspect that they are just using you. They’ll talk to you in class as an excuse to build trust with you and have some sort of distraction, but they would never want to be seen with you outside of class. That alone shows you how fake they are. Absolutely not your friends by any stretch. True friends will not only be seen with you but will stick beside you in thick and thin, do things for you and you do things for them, support you and you support them etc. I see none of that here. They are not worth the aggravation. From now on just totally ignore them. They’ll catch on.
You seem to be trying too hard. You are weeding friends in, not weeding friends out. What I mean by this is that you will attempt to alter yourself for the people you are attempting to talk to, instead of being yourself and talking about what you really want to talk about and letting them come to you like a magnet. Stop caring what everyone else thinks of every one of your actions; it will only add to your insecurity. Instead, just be 1% genuine. Look for kids in your same situation. Is there a kid that’s always quiet just like you? Talk to them. You may be surprised that your interests and personality, passions and other things will match well. From there you can climb up the social ladders through connections (they may know someone more popular, who in turn knows someone else more popular, etc). But personally, I don’t give 2 scraps about popularity, only about building close friendships that will always be there for you. But that’s just my take on your matter. Thanks for reading this megapost haha!
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