I met this guy and we dated for 4 months on and off (he lived an hour n 15 mins away)but I finally ended it because he was an alcoholic and felt he didn’t care about me. Later I tried getting back with him but he said he wasn’t ready for a relationship. We argued back and forth the entire time we were separated we insulted each other. he told me he loved me and missed me n I missed him. He lied saying he didn’t sleep w ne1 while we were apart then i found dirty pictures of this girl on his phone after he told me he loved me still n asked him to delete them but he refused n laughed n later he told me i was being controlling then deleted them later when he saw how upset I was. I left the country for 2 weeks n after 5 months of separation he told me he was getting his life together n he wasn’t drinking or doing drugs nemore(he told me this the entire 5 months) he came to see me and we got back together but he broke up with me after 4 days he said he did it out of respect cuz he didn’t want to hurt me in the long run n that we both needed to find sobriety n distance was an issue. I didn’t talk to him then after 2 weeks, he contacted me we argued some. then 2 weeks later we weren’t arguing n he told me he loved me (he won’t stop telling me he loves me but can’t be with me…like what am I supposed to think?) n said he heard through friends I was sober n that he was proud of me. I told him it hurt to talk to him n i wanted to cut off connection but then i let up cuz i loved him so much. He came to see me 2 weeks after the convo (of his DUI’s he can’t drive so he got a ride). I told him the day b4 he came that I was glad we still talked n were friends cuz it helped me get over him, but i lied on purpose i still loved him. We went out danced, his friends were there so were mine we went outside n i was drunk n i started crying n told him I still loved him n what I had said about being over him was a lie and that had only told him that i was over him cuz he wanted to be friends n I didn’t want him to feel awkward (n i told him is wasn’t just saying that cuz i was drunk) n he told me he loved me n hugged me. we left early n didnt say bye to ne1. he said that if saying hello to me again meant not saying goodbye (to his friends)– so be it. we talked n talked till late on my front porch n he pointed out how much we both had changed (it was so much easier to talk to him now). he kept telling me that he loved me but he’s not ready for a relationship n that he respected that I hadn’t kissed him when he tried. later we kissed on my porch. the entire time we went out the nite b4 n hung out the next day; he kept holding my hand n he kissed my ring finger my hands n cheeks. I went back with him to where he lived for a day n we hung out n he said he wanted to see me again on sun. then we got in a fight cuz over the weekend cuz i felt he didn’t care about me n we didn’t c each other. Also he told me he needed to focus on himself I told him I didn’t want to talk to him nemore cuz It hurt too much n by not talking to him it wud help me feel better n get over him. I had left something of mine @ his house and he texted me saying it made him sad to look @ it after i told him i didn’t want to talk to him. I told him he could do away with it. n he said he wudnt in case I came there again. I told him i wudn’t. We talked more and we both apologized for not being there for each other in the past. I asked him today If he was talking to ne girls and he said not sexually but that he is keeping his options open. He tells me he loves me and cares about me and the entire time says he doesn’t want to stop knowing me yet doesn’t want to be together…I don’t understand what’s going on someone please help.. is he playing games?
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Hey now I think it’s best that you two let this one go eh? I mean, from what you say, there is alcohol and even drugs involved in the past and probably in the future. Just because he dangles the promise of love in front of your face, he can lead you on all the time. Don’t be mad at him, but don’t be with him either. Just make a clean break… before something bad happens ok? Really, I mean this. I think you two should give it a miss and just move on.
ok i read all of it unlike these other pricks. and it sounds like he does love you, but ur not sure of it and he can see this so he wont make a move untill ur shour u want to b with him then he wil make up his mind, and all this fighting will also put him off. so you need to cut down the fighting and try to b sure that he really loves you, then if that doesnt work he may b playing games but im not sure. and also when he said “he is keeping his options open” he was basicly trying to make you jellous so that u would come back 2 him so maybe he really does love u and is trying to get u bak. if i were u i would give him 1 more chance and tell him that so if that he will try not 2 stuff up and if he does mabey he really doesnt care and does not love you but good luck ;).
Source(s): i am the love doctor 😉 lol
first of all shorten your question into he left me we got back together then i left him and we got back together and now hes leaving me.
i dont know how i read the whole thing but i have a simple answer for u.
RUNAWAY
this is a toxic relationship if ive ever seen one. its never gonna work out and deep down you know its true. no matter how much you love him you got to let him go. move on! and the only way to do that is to cut off ties and focus on something else in your life that can use your attention.
he is going to keep going back and forth with you . how can you stay with someone who says their keeping their options open?
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You tell him you you’re over him, you tell him you love him. You tell him you want to see him, you tell him you don’t. It sounds like you need to figure out want you really want from this guy, and do yourself the favor of remembering why it never seems to work out. Two recovering addicts with a history deciding to date again is usually a recipe for disaster. Make an honest list of the pros and cons of having him in your life, and see which side makes more sense. If you feel yourself changing your mind again, pull out the list and re-read it.
This is so sick, so utterly dysfunctional and crazy that I don’t know where to start. All I can say is to run for your life and get some therapy so that you can learn how to avoid making a choice like this again. Also, for heaven’s sake learn to spell.
Your question is way to long no one in right mind would read all of that
Please shorten this…