When you eventually move on and meet somebody else, How long did it take your ex partner to accept that person as someone in your child’s life, and realise that they weren’t trying to replace them, or bring harm to them??
Or is it always a difficult situation?
Thanks.xx
Open Question
never
it was very difficult.
I chose never to bring anyone else into my childrens’ lives. I certainly didn’t make that choice because I cared what my ex-husband thought or felt but because I cared what they needed.
I have been seperated from my ex husband for over two years, he has a girlfriend and they have been together for a long time. Till this day he still is bothered by my boyfriend..now fiance. Since we are getting married and obviously our daughter lives with me and my hubby to be, he tried for a long time to split us up or cause more stress in our relationship. I can’t say if he will ever get over it, but I can say that for the past two years he has been really childish. Good Luck!
It’s always a bit of an odd situation, and much of it comes down to how cooperative the parents are with one another. Everyone is different, and we all react differently to having strangers introduced to play a large part in our children’s lives. I’ve been divorced for eight years and have chosen not to remarry. I have primary physical custody of our two children and feel that they need me more at this point than I need a man… and they have to come first. Their father has remarried twice since we divorced. I haven’t had a problem with either of them, but do feel that he has pushed the new women on our daughters too quickly both times. He just married the second one two weeks ago, and they only dated for about 6 months before marrying. My daughters met her only two weeks before they moved in together. Needless to say, the whole thing can put quite a bit of stress on the kids, so I recommend moving slowly. The children should be the primary concern. The adults need to push aside their bitterness and insecurity and see to it that the kids come first. If you’re just separated, I don’t recommend introducing anyone new to the kids for at least a year after the divorce is final. Give them the time they need to adjust to one major change before throwing another one at them. By default, this will also give the ex time to adapt and will make the whole idea a little easier to swallow.
By the time I met someone else my daughter had her own child but was not with the babies father, she has since met and married someone else and grandson is 10 years old and even now the ex doesn’t want her but he doesn’t want anyone else having her or his son and tells the son all the things he can give him that the new dad cant give, toys and money should never be mentioned to a child with 2 dads, I think there will always be problems