Its not hard for me to fall in love but letting my guard down and getting hurt feels like death, as it would for anyone. A year ago I met a guy whom I work with and we have become very close friends. He makes me feel like the most beautiful girl on the planet and does adorable things like open my door for me, motivate me, etc… Although I feel so special around him, I can’t help but feel scared. First reason why I’m scared is he’s moving at the end of the year. Second reason is, I know what it is like to hurt and to be hurt by him would be worse then most pain. Third, we aren’t dating but he feels comfortable enough to tell me about his “conquests.” I just don’t know how to feel. He, I believe, will always be in the friend zone for me no matter how much my love grows for him. I just can’t seem to fully let my guard down for him. No matter how bad I want to, I’m just scared of getting hurt. Please don’t give me, you only live once or take chances, because I can’t hear those at all!
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I got together with a girl two months before she left for college in another state. That girl is now my wife, we’ve been together for 10 years and have two children together. I can’t imagine life without her.
But with that said, keep in mind that I don’t know you, I don’t know the guy you’re talking about, and I don’t know your entire situation. So I’m not trying to give you advice here, just giving you my perspective.
It sounds like your fear of getting hurt might interfere with relationships throughout your entire life, and you can’t let that fear control you like that. Everyone has been hurt in their life. But that doesn’t mean we should all lock ourselves in the closet and never speak to anyone again. And with that, I’ll leave you with two quotes:
”‘Tis better to have loved and lost, Than never to have loved at all.” – Alfred Tennyson
”There is no remedy for love but to love more.” – David Henry Thoreau
Love’s a disease. But curable.
Rose Macauley