I am constantly thinking about what people think of me. I try as hard as I can not to let it get to me, but I can’t help it. I can’t stand up to people because I’m afraid they will say awful things about me to their friends. I’m so tired of living this way. I’m almost seventeen and a rising senior in high school. Any advice? I know I can’t make everyone like me and that people will be judging me my entire life, but it’s like my mind doesn’t register that fact. Thanks. And please, help me.
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Think about what it is you are TRULY afraid of…do you think you will get killed? Physically attacked? Probably not. Maybe some minor verbal abuse, but chances are you aren’t dealing with anyone quick-witted enough to truly attack your character. You will not get killed, rarely will you get physically attacked (unless your stupid enough to get yourself into an unsafe/vulnerable location where someone could get away with it without being arrested), and emotional abuse/embarrassment is unlikely if you aren’t intimate with the person. So, what ARE you afraid of…think more logically, less Hollywood.
I am a rising senior as well. Understand that you made it to that point, your in your highest education and you worked for it. Ignore what people say and give them no attention. Not even contact in anyway or show weakness. they will get bored and leave you alone. You will no longer need to deal with them after this year.
This is very hard to do. I know. I couldn’t do it until I had my first relationship. But, you have to simply be assertive. Tell others that you don’t like to be treated poorly. If they mock you, then ignore them. By putting you down, then it’s them being insecure. Only insecure people would want to take pleasure at your expense.
Learn to get out of your comfort zone.
Maybe the deeper issue here is that you don’t seem to care what YOU think about you.