How many people should I expect to show at my shower?

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I am having a baby shower May 27th. I sent my invites out just yesterday, which is 5 weeks prior to the event. I have sent out 41 invites. How many should I expect to come? I am really paranoid about having very very few or none show up! LOL

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  • Didn’t you put on the invite RSVP? That is normal protocall so you know how many people to expect. If you did, then you should expect all the people to come that responded. Obviously some people will end up not coming that said yes – (last minute things – sick; forget, etc) and there could be some people that show up that forget to respond. But on average usually you get about the same amount as has responded.

    Otherwise I have no way to determine the amount to expect.

  • Well did you send the 41 invites to people that you know, or did you jump into strangers’ windows at 1 in the morning holding a flyer and screaming in tongues at them?

    If the latter, almost all of them along with a few cops.

    If not, then it breaks down to how much they like you.

  • half of them

  • Given that we don’t know you, your social circle, your relationships with everyone on your invitation list, and a whole variety of other variables, we can’t possibly tell you how many people to expect. Only you can estimate the likelihood of someone’s attending.

  • Well, if you are throwing your own shower, then you can probably expect 12 people to show up. Throwing your own shower to have guests bring you gifts is very tacky and incredibly rude.

    Anyway, to answer your question. You sent the invites five weeks in advance. That is a long time and unless people take care of the RSVP and put it on their calender, those invites are going to get covered up and forgotten about. If they are not offended that you are throwing yourself a shower, then you can probably expect 50% of them to show up at the shower.

  • Even if your invitees were willing to overlook your embarrassing faux pas of giving yourself your own baby shower, I wouldn’t expect many people to be available to come anyway.

    If you live in the U.S., May 27th is Memorial Day this year. This is a very important day for many, especially those who lost loved ones in wars. Numerous ceremonies are held all over the nation honouring soldiers who have lost their lives serving your country. In addition to the true importance of the day, Memorial Day Weekend is also a big weekend for family gatherings and barbecues, for community and private pool club season openings, for interstate travel, and — like most 3-day weekends these days — for weddings. In short, the date you chose is one where you have a lot of built-in “competition.”

    Do keep in mind that, even if very few can accept your invitation, or fail to show up on the appointed day, your baby is *no less precious* than any other baby-to-be. The worth of a baby should never be measured by how many shower guests show up, nor by the number of presents received in response to a mother’s shameless attempts to garner as many as she possibly can. As long as a mother is loving and devoted to her baby, very little beyond that is needed for that baby to thrive. Best of luck.

  • Cara, did you ask your guests to RSVP? If yes, then you’ll know soon enough who’s coming and who’s not coming. If no, then the host can give everyone a call or email to confirm say two weeks before the shower date.

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