I am a very outgoing girl. At least I think I am. I’m on the basketball team , njhs and yearbook. I know almost everyone in my grade, 8th btw. But I guess I hungout with the wrong people. At first I had a lot of friends in different groups. Then I started only hanging out with one. That group was the group everyone wants to be in. I was with my bestfriend and it’s the new year. We both started hanging out with them. Then drama happens. My bestfriend fights someone. & the group still loves her. I never wanted to fight. But this girl in the group jumped me & basically made it so I couldn’t fight back. That happened a while ago & after her saying sorry she still keeps going on to me. Texting me and ****. And then my bestfriend goes and is still friends with her. She hangs out with them When I can’t because the girl who fights me is there. & most of that group doesn’t even like me anymore when I don’t even deserve it. I also lost 2 REAL friends because of this. They both said they are done with me and I feel like my life is over. I made all the bad decisions. My bestfriend is still my bestfriend but I dont think she is real anymore. Help me. I’m seriously thinking about ending my life for good now. I have nothing. I mean nothing.
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Come on now, your only in Elementary/Midle school, there is so much more to life that you need to experience, people to meet, places to go. You probably won’t even have the same friends or keep in contact with some when you leave high school, so it doesn’t matter if you have a huge group of friends or a few. You’ll make more as life progresses. Just think of all the things there is to do in life that you haven’t experienced yet but will if you continue your life. I hoped this helped 🙂 please don’t end your life, you have the potential to do so much
Honey, what I’m going to tell you comes from experience. Grade 8 sucks. It’s horrible. It was seriously the worst year for me school wise. I ended up being bullied, not to the extent you did, by people I thought were my friends, and left the group and was basically friendless for a good part of that grade. And It was depressing and lonely. But it got better. The next year I ended up meeting some great people, who I’m still friends with and have been best friends with for over 10 years now. So don’t end your life. Life gets so much better, and you’d miss out on some of the best years you could ever imagine.
Your best friend sounds like she’s stuck where she is. Being in the top group sucks. It’s got a pecking order and it’s really hard to break out of, especially when you feel like you’re going to lose all your popularity and respect because of it. Just give her some time, talk to her, explain to her how you feel, but try to understand how she feels too.
Your two friends probably feel hurt, and if you want to make it up to them, you need to be prepared for it to take a long time and a lot of hear felt appologising. And you need to be able to give them some space too. They need to get over being hurt as well.
My advice would be to go to some new friends. You seem to know a lot of people, go back between those groups and start talking to them again, be prepared to get a bit of a cold shoulder, but I think they’ll take you back pretty easily. Just make sure you’re nice and if they bring it up appologise and say that it’s been a bit crazy and that you’ll make more of an effort to come and say hi more often.
As time goes on, either your friends will accept you back or you’ll make new friends who care a lot about you. And while it sounds like a horrible idea right now, you might meet and become friends with people who end up being some of the best you’ll ever make. And if the great friends thing doesn’t happen this year, it will be next year. Just be a positive and friendly person and people will love being around you. Things will get better. I assure you of that. You mean a lot to so many people, some you probably don’t even know about yet. Just smile chicken, things will get better. I promise 🙂
I’m sorry to hear that this stuff is happening. This is an awkward time where most girls are just trying to figure out who they are, and in the process, some of them do things that make others absolutely miserable. All I can say is that this is 8th grade, and things do get better in high school and beyond. I know, because I’ve gone through similar situations.
I won’t lie to you, this kind of drama doesn’t go away, but most people begin to care less and less about drama, which is why it tends to dissipate.
The way I see it, you have two options:
Option 1: You just bide your time and wait for things to blow over. They will, trust me. The only problem with this is that you may end up being miserable for a while before things get better. A good way to cope with this would be to talk to an adult that you trust, maybe someone who’s gone through a similar experience or a counselor at your school.
Option 2: You be up front with this girl. Pull her aside and calmly and rationally try to discuss why she’s incessantly texting you. Try to explain to her that you don’t want any trouble with her, and, if at all possible, you’d like to keep things civil between the two of you. If she doesn’t want to listen, then you’re just going to have to try to block her out. I know it’s hard, but it’s necessary.
As far as your best friend still being friends with her, chances are she’s going to remain friends with her. (I say this because I’ve been in and still am in a similar situation.) It is possible for her to be friends with both of you, although it will make things a bit awkward. If this girl you’re having trouble with is mean to other people, though, your best friend may realize that she no longer wants to be friends with this girl either.
As far as wanting to end your life, not a good idea. Not a good idea at all. Don’t do anything rash right now. It’s not worth it. This girl who’s giving you hell isn’t worth it. Please, if you are serious about wanting to end your life, talk to your parents about seeking professional help, or call a suicide hotline. Don’t make any rash decisions. You have your whole life ahead of you. And this isn’t just some person who’s telling you this. I’ve had the same issues and still do.
I hope things get better for you. Soon.
I really honestly hope u realize that ending ur life isn’t the right answer. And that counseling will really help u so let me be the first to say ur best friend isn’t a real friend and I’m sorry for that becuz u deserve better frm her and no one has the right to make u feel worthless. I hope that the mistakes u made really help u in life becuz mistakes help us grow into the person we will b in life. N I hope the person u will b is a strong person becuz as soon as u give up u let the person that is harming u win. So fight bck for ur life cuz ur to young to want to give up andhave so much to live for all these ppl are not worth it n I don’t understand why u think they are. Plz listen to me when I say drop ur bff cuz she’s fake fake fake. And is probably talking crap about u to these girls. I mean think about it she is hanging out wit girls who don’t like so she probably acts like she doesn’t like u too. And for as ur too friends that u lost apologize to them and do it frm the heart and if they don’t then u did all u can do. But nvr forget about all the pp who love u becuz when I have a hard time they r wht gets me through it and stuff
Honey you’re ok i know it sucks right now but it’s really not your fault if girls fought you or other girls chose the wrong friends. I’m 23 and I gotta tell you there’s a whole world outside of high school. I think it freaks people out because high school is like it’s own little mini society. Everyone’s harmonal and figuring out who they are, and usually only value themselves if they are “popular” or smart enough to know that it’s not really about that. There are millions of people outside of your school. Just because you chose one clique and now it’s not working doesn’t mean you have nothing. It sucks but you can make new friends, you may just have to chose ones that are less stupid, no offence. So chose friends wisely but don’t let rejection make you feel less worthy in anyway. It’s “cool” to complain and *****, so people do it just for sport even if you don’t deserve it, which is what I’m thinking happened. It’s stupid, but just find higher quality friends and you’ll be ok. It’s not you that’s making bad decisions. If you have trouble because you chose one clique of others, that’s high school. lots of people don’t like high school but they come out just fine and sooner or later I promise you will find some real friends. Until then be strong, life’s not perfect, some parts suck but other parts are great. Take care sweeheart and God bless 🙂
okay first of all, ur best friend isnt a real friend norrr your friend because if she was she would have told you guys to make and and bring aq friend circle again. but what i can tell u is. i am 20 years old and ive been through situations like these and worse. this is something that your going to look at in the future and laugh. if you worried because your not popular any more or what ever, who cares. man up and be ur self. if no one likes it then it doesn’t matter you are your own person. and if they come at you to bully you, dont just stand there with ur head down or let them bully you or say mean stuff about u, respect yourself and confront them. step up to the plate give your self respect like a big girl. and go speak to a counselor or someone that can actually help inside. who cares about them their losers. you have to see your self like the highest most prettiest, bitchy, asshole girl in your grade. and trust me people would admire you for it. might not show it but they would.
try talking to your best friend face to face…tell her how you feel. if she doesn’t listen to how you feel she isn’t a true friend
right now it might seem like you have nothing but don’t worry you do! you might just have to look for it.
DON’T end your life!! it might seem like the easy way out but even though all this is hard its helping you become the person you are meant to be
also try hanging out with people you might not normally hang out with, you might be surprised at the amazing friends you will make
stay strong 🙂
sounds like some typical middle school drama, i dont think your life is worth ending over something stupid like that. Find something you like to do that you can look forward to, dont make your life be about some other punk little kids
.hugs.
you have your friend’s and families smiles to keep you going… and mine