I’ll be 18 weeks tomorrow with #2. My ultrasound tech told me at 16 weeks she’s pretty sure it’s a girl (I found out with my first baby at 15 weeks) I’m going for my anatomy scan this week and my husband DOESN’T want to know the sex. I’ve had no problem the past couple of weeks keeping it a secret from him (I just HAD to know, I’m like that lol) But everyone else, mostly his family and my friends, are giving me an attitude everytime I tell them I can’t tell anyone. I’m only respecting my husband’s wishes he doesn’t want anyone knowing. I know it’s a different kind of situation but I didn’t think everyone would be giving me an attitude when I tell them that it’s a secret!
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Keep it a secret! who cares what they think your husband would be very upset if everybody else knows and he is the last to know what he’ll be having. He’ll give in and want to know then you can tell everybody =)
just be honest with them, tell them you know its hard for them not knowing but Hubby is determined NOT to know, and you CAN NOT break his trust in that, and if you “secretly” tell them then its going to slip, sombodys going to say HEY BOB GONGRATZ ON THE____! or you going to get gender spific clothing and that will spoil it for your hubby
when using examples i would refrain from using a Example gender,
CONGRAZ ON THE BOY.. then they will asume its a boy, same if you say girl,
if you come right out and say Look i KNOW its disapointing to you but HUBBY is determined, they will back off and understand they were going to far, .. becuse not only are you acknologing their dissapoint ment, but you are also making them relize this is a TRUST between you and hubby, and no one wants to ask a wife to violate a trust…
what ever you do, DO NOT drop hints, as it will leak out, dont take even ONE person into your cofadance, becuse they will take one OR 2 and soon EVERYONE and your hubby will know…
this maybe harder on youthen you not knowing also, but MANY people do it, .. also be JUST as enthusastic on picking out a boys name. or hubby will know its a girl… or the dreaded, i CANT wait till SHE gets here, is also a dead give away,,, so make up a nickname NOW, so you can always say I cant WAIT till Starchild/peanut/superbaby gets here.
I’m sorry that they are giving you a hard time. They should respect the decision that you and your husband made. Next time they ask, tell them that you and your husband are waiting to be surprised.
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your husband wishes should always come first and anyone who cant respect that isn’t worth telling anyways.
tell them the baby was lay in an awkward position, you tried having a drink and going for a walk but it was sleeping so you couldnt find out the sex,
of course everyone should know that it’s your body, your baby and your life… ppl should have more respect for you and your husband’s wishes… good luck to you!!
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Your family should respect both you and your husbands wishes, period!
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well if you know u can trust them to not tell him then tell them..
if not then you need to explain that he’s the daddy and he wants that, its not like your doing it to be rude, its his wishes…
He does not have to know… i mean who cares your carring the baby not him!