my wife pays the bills in a apartment my step daughters lives in. When its time to pay the bills in the home we share together in marriage she says she don’t have any money. sometimes she will give me a small portion of the bill or nothing at all, this now causes me to come up with her portion on top of every thing else i pay like the mortgage i am robbing peter to pay paul cause our agreement is she pays the utilities and cable and she falls short every month i am unemployed and have limited income and she works every day and draw a paycheck every week yet i come up with all the big bills and then get stuck with her two reasonable bills.
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I would have a big problem with that..If any of my kids move out they better have a job and can afford there own place cause im not paying there bills..I think its wrong of her doing that..Im on your side..Its ok to help every now and then for your kids but paying her bills and then worry about the bills at home could make trouble between you and your wife..Get things worked out she is your wife..
No that isn’t fair. If her daughters are old enough to be living alone in an apartment, they are old enough to pay their bills. Your wife should be doing the opposite by paying towards your combined household debt,and then if she wants to help her daughters out after that, she can give what she can.
If you confront her on this issue in a calm way, and just simply offer this suggestion, and tell her you really need her, it will be much more beneficial then getting mad and blaming.
ok, i will say this again as the word vocal communication seems to be falling short on everybody on here as of late!
talk to her about all of this! it’s totally unacceptable and i could never ever do this when i get married and have children.
either the stepdaughters pay for their own bills, or they move in with you?! thats the only solution to this! it’s not fair on you and you should be looking for a job at least?! i know it’s hard, i’m also jobless and live with my parents. i’m trying my hardest to get a job. it’s not easy.
but talk to her and them! it’s not very nice living like that. good luck
1. Pool your money so that your money is her’s and her’s is yours.
2. Pay your bills at home first. What’s left over can go to whom or whatever you want.
Well you have to make some hard choices and cut out the things she needs to pay for and see is that catches her attention.
not fair at all, she is taking advantage of you… going to be difficult if not impossible to change her point of view also…
i hate to seem shallow but you might have to cut down on things she loves or has to have in your household so she might see the value of the things youre providing…
If your step daughter is an “adult”, than you are getting shafted. Adult offspring need to be paying for there own stuff.