I am 30 yrs old & still single. I’ve been looking for the perfect guy who I could feel comfortable spending the rest of my life with for a long time with no success. I’ve always been looking at older men but they all seem so insensitive and preoccupied with other things. I own a small coffee shop in town and I typically try to befriend all my customers (great marketing strategy!). There’s this one man who said he was a freshman in college (which means he’s 17-19 years old, not sure of his age) but we have very good chemistry. We have the same interests and laugh at each other’s jokes. I really like him but I don’t know if I should give someone so young a chance. I would expect boys his age to be immature and wild but he’s very controlled and calm. Is this my perfect guy? Or must I keep looking?
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Honestly, he is too young for you. I know that age is just a number but you two are a generation apart. You may have sexual chemistry as a common interest but other areas of interests just won’t mesh. And what about common goals and values? At his age, he is just getting started and he will be experimenting a lot while you are at a more mature stage of life. Give him a pass and find someone closer in age to you. If you do decide to take things further, confirm that he is 18 otherwise statutory rape charges may come into play. Take care.
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I guess you may feel better if you really do find out his age. He may be older but, look younger and have taken a few years off from college. I guess the real way to know that is to casually ask him if he has friends in the area…if he came straight from high school to college.
For me? It’s all about the person and not the age. I was 18 and my husband 35 when we met and married. He was not looking but, we hit it off.
Take things slow. Don’t rush him…he may want to “have fun” during college so you want to avoid that…or he may have other goals.
REMEMBER: He’s young and his goals, self, and views may and probably will change but, his core values probably won’t….(aka if he’s religion X then he’ll probably stay that religion). Just know that about younger people. I changed some but, we’re still together…so it’s just something to keep in mind.
Good luck!
Keep looking… this boy is less than half your age. You shouldn’t have anything that in common with someone on an intimate level whose 10 + years younger than you. What could you possibly expect from it?
Remember when you were 19.Were you going to be some 30 year old guys dream girl who is ready to settle down and have kids.Obviously not because here you are at 30 and still looking for mr.right.A 19 year old when your 30 is good for one thing,I will let you use your imagination to figure that one out………….Sounds like fun though,lucky kid.
wow!at 17 to 19 thats too young for you but we dont know right?age doesnt matter.take your time,besides youre still young.bcoz me too is still single and im 30.
First, I’d make sure he’s over 18. If he is, there would be nothing wrong with a few casual dates to find out if there could perhaps be more.
Give it a try! There are no set rules to finding a match; sometimes it comes in ways that you least expect. Just keep in mind that he is probably not ready to settle down, so if you are expecting that to happen right away, you may be disappointed.
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I think the age difference would be a big problem, sooner than later. Be friends but nothing more. To much to risk.
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It really is hard to say. It seems that you are looking at the situation with clear eyes. HE may be wild, but you’ll never know unless you give it a try. After all, the heart wants what the heart wants.
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