my best friend used to have a really bad drinking problem. she wasn’t even old enough to drink. So i told her that if she drank again that i wouldn’t b friends with her. on her birthday she drank. I was upset and she lost my trust. then a few months later she went to this party, i called her while she was there and she sounded drunk so i asked her if she had drank again. she just said that i should trust her and if i don’t we shouldn’t be friends. so right now we aren’t. Is this my fault???
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I would weigh the grief you get dealing with her drunkenness and the camaraderie you get from being her friend.
Sounds like the bad part got to the point where you didn’t want to be dragged into her vortex of self-destruction. While everyone has faults and weaknesses, one makes a choice whether they get out of hand. Maybe she’ll learn that your friendship is worth more than a drunken stupor. If not, move on.
She will thank you later on. You just might be the voice of reason while she’s hugging the toilet. I wouldn’t cut her off totally, but just let her know you care about her and feel she would be better off limiting her alcohol. I like to drink, but as I’ve found, over drinking only hurts you in the long run.
it’s not your fault, you’re trying to help her, talk to her again, and you gotta be more loose, drinking is very hard to quit, tell her to at least drink less, show her the horrible accidents and events that the alcohol can cause, tell her you’re gonna give her another chance, that you’ll trust her again if she drinks less, for starters, 75% less than she usually drinks
of course its not your fault. it is her fault that she broke your promise and she was the one who went ahead and drunk. if she wants to continue drinking, then fine, there are a lot of other friends that you can have in the world who actually listen to their friends’ opinions because it is the right thing to do
What is she going to tell people? Your lame for not being best friends with a drunk?
Find another crowd for Christ sakes.
Really…don’t bother with this.
i’ve noticed that in this world, there are people who like to drink, and people who don’t like people who like to drink.
The drunk wants everyone else to also be drunk.
The alcohol-hater wants eveyone else to hate alcohol and always be sober.
Very soon, these two types of people diverge.
you are too judgemental and make too many ULTIMATUMS!!!
people don’t want or need to feel judged… maybe she is crying out for help and you aren’t a very good friend (or ex friend)…
that is not your fault.
you cant be babysitting her drinking.
you can just see wut kind of friend shes being by not caring about your guys’s friendship. shes choosing drinkin over you being her friend. thats her shitt. it is not your fault at all
No, you gave her an option and stuck by it.
no it is not
you made the right decision.