My Husband and I recently moved in with my in-laws to save money, and so my husband can go to College, which he is finished this coming week.
We move back out on our own May 1st, we already have our apartment, for our family. During this time that we lived with my in-laws from December to April I became pregnant but had a miscarriage my mother in-law freaked telling us we’re not fit and everything.
Our son who turns 3 in May is in the middle and its makes me mad, everything I do and my husband too is never good enough, the doctor put him on puffers for asthma she freaked she doesnt want him on them, she trys to tell me where we can bring him and not bring him, meal time is a fight, cause he’s a picky eater and I tell him if he doesnt eat his meals no snacks she’ll get up from the table and give him fruit snacks, pudding etc, she gives him Pepsi, which is a NO NO, I tried talking to her, my husband has tried, she smokes with him in the house and in her arms, she says its HER HOUSE, HER RULES. Most of this stuff happens when my husband is away at school.
Now she has phoned her friends and my Mom, and told them she is afraid for my sons safety and is threating to phone CAS to have him taken away from us. Neither one of us drink, or anything I NEVER go out, I have done nothing wrong, she thinks giving him a time out when he is bad, mean and she takes him off his time-outs and tells him to tell his parents we’re bad, and tells him to tell Mommy to Shut-Up. i’m done with it, I’m done with talking about it nicely.
When my husband and I move out May 1st, I’m afraid she will try something, she makes us out to be monsters, and tells people he doesnt want to be with his parents he wants to be with her. Also we have recently hit a really bad finiancial situation which we’re trying to work out, and she thinks she can use it to her advantage to get him.
Please help!! 🙁
Update:
She was mad about the 2nd pregnancy and happy about the miscarriage.
With my 1st Pregnancy she told my husband to tell me to have a abortion, and we weren’t married at the time.
Also my son pee’s to bed, and lately has started peeing in his pants he’s been sick all week thats why I think he has, but she keeps telling me he needs to be punished, or he’ll be a dirty child……
Update 2:
I still give him his puffers, and no theres nothing, when he first became a picky eater I took him to the doctor I didnt know what to do and he told me stuff like crackers and cheese is still food if he eats that stuff and others, which she says is starving him he needs 3 big meals a day….my doctor said he doesnt.
Theres no where we can stay, the next 3 weeks we will be packing, etc.
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I would say no matter what you have to do get the hell out of her house now. There isn’t a darn thing she can do about it. Let her all CPS as long as your not doing anything wrong it will never go anywhere.
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They have no proof that your this monster. Besides you have your friends and family that should support you if anything did happen. Your son has no abuse marks on him, and has he had to be taken to the dr or hospital for any accidents? Shes the one withholding meds from him, which is a big no-no. Grandparents do this a lot once they become attach to a kid. If she does call, you have nothing to worry about though, as long as your telling the truth. Now is there a place you can stay until May 1st like your parents, or any other family? I would get out of there asap.
*Just try to avoid her as much as possible then. He is your son, not hers and she needs to see this real fast. Toddlers go through picky eating stages, as long as he’s eating thats fine. And your right pepsi and junk should not even be given to him. Is your father-in-law involved? If so whos side is he on, if yours then maybe he needs to step up and tell his wife to back off. I know you said your husband has told her this before, but maybe he needs to again, and be stern about it. Tell her that she will have nothing to do with your son if she does not back off. It may be her house, but its your son. Also she is the reason his asthma is acting up. Smoking is a no no with children around, especially ones with asthma.*
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Sounds like your monster-in-law is a control freak. The sooner you move out, the better. If she continues belittling you and your husband to your son, severely limit the time he spends with her. Or ensure that it is in a controlled environment (not her home) with you or your husband. As for her smoking when your son already has asthma, set your rules, limits and boundaries. If she wants to smoke and endanger her own health, let her. But forbid her from smoking around your son. “Her home, her rules”…too bad, He’s your son and your responsibility. Tell her to back off and control herself. She’s an unfit grandmother. Your son’s peeing could be the result of the constant stress. Get your own place and tell her that she can only visit him in your home. Let her call CAS (here it’s CPS for Child Protective Services). She doesn’t have a leg to stand on. She is merely using it as a threat. Or make it easy…call them yourself and let them know what she’s doing, and tell them that you and your husband are doing everything possible to remove your son from her presence and influence. The asthma meds can occasionally cause some lack in appetite, as do the age and growth spurts of the child. If you are concerned, talk with your son’s doctor.
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If she does call she will have to prove that you are a unfit parents. They just wont take her word for it. As far as your financial situation they can’t use that against you either because their are so many family’s that the parents don’t work and they live off the state and they still have custody of their kids. Just hang in their until you move and when you do tell her your house your rules and if she doesn’t follow them then she can’t see her grandchild.
Ugh! Tell her to shut her mouth and mind her own! She wouldn’t be able to get him. The people would have to come see for themselves if anything was being done wrong to him and with her smoking and doing all that other crazy stuff. I doubt they would even give him to her. If they do get called and come by to see you explain to them just how she acts and tell them your situation. You don’t sound like you are even close to doing anything wrong for him to be taken away from you and don’t let anyone scare ya. Fight for your kids when you have to. NOONE else will as hard as the mommies! I know how you feel hun, mine is crazy acting too sometimes!
Source(s): Crazy acting mother in law too!
I would suggest YOU yourself call CPS and explain what is going on and that you would like them to come in ( yes at her home) and varify that you or your husband has or is doing anything wrong.With the new laws out about smoking , you would think that there would be a law about not smoking around children. Also document everything that she does or says. Time and date it. A running log if you should god forbid go to court will go a long way. Best of luck!
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Get out. Now. Possessions can be replaced. Can you not stay with your family until May? Her behaviour is affecting your son, your husband and you. She is stark raving bonkers, a control freak, and is not only polluting your little boy’s lungs with her smoking but is also making your husband’s asthma worse. No one will take your son away from you. But you have to get away from this freak of nature.
Your mother in law sounds like a psycho she cant take your kids away unless she has evidence of abuse or neglect or inability to support. Which doesnt seem applicable at all. If I were you I would have totally moved out long ago and punched her in the face. Leave as soon as you can, and never contact her again!
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Get out of there as fast as you can and don’t look back. Don’t give her any control over your child, because she will never learn her place. You are the parents, you decide what’s best for your child.
Get out of that house quick! No matter what you have to do to do it! Tell her to kiss your *** their is nothing in what you have said that CPS would come in and take him away from you! You need to put her in her place asap!
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