I had visits with them until there adoption. I was very close with them, they no who I am as I grew up with them till they were 4 and 5, as it stands at the moment I’m getting 1 letter a year of there adoptive parents which updated me on how there doing, is there anyway I could get more acces more letters or even be allowed to see them? It feels like I’ve been punished by not being aloud to see them when we grew up together and Had strong bonds. It wasnt my fault they were took into care then adopted. As I said before they both now who I am the last time I saw them was 29 surely I have more rights then this as there biological brother!?
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No, sorry, when the adoptions became final, you became a stranger to the girls. Sorry. Adoptions make the children “as if born to” the adoptive family.
You are LUCKY to be getting those letters. Can you reply? Ask the adoptive family if you can visit. They have to give permission, but all they can say is no, right?
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As a brother, you don’t have more rights than this under the law. However, you could write back to the parents through the agency or letterbox and say that you’re interested in seeing your sisters if possible, exchanging pictures, etc. so they don’t forget you, and that you’ll always be interested in their lives as you were very close. Since they have not seen you for half their lives, they may not remember you, however, so keep that in mind.
I’m sorry this has happened to you and your family. It must be very painful going through this. I don’t know what the laws are where you live, but can you contact their former social (case) worker? They should be able to provide more info. If not, then go over his/her head to their boss, and then their boss etc. Keep doing the best you can for yourself, even though it must be so difficult to go through. Eventually, you could see if a lawyer will take your case so that you can have some visitation with your sisters. Good luck.
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Actually they are not required to even send an update.
You should absolutely request more letters & even try for a visit…but don’t act entitled. They don’t owe you anything. Be respectful, be nice & follow whatever rules they have to the letter.
It isn’t your fault your sisters were adopted. But they weren’t put up for adoption to punish you – it was to give them the best chance in life. If you love them, you should want them to have that chance. If you haven’t seen them since 29, they probably wouldn’t even know who you are. They were very young then, and although they will have blurred memories, I suspect they might want to forget.
It would be selfish to cause trouble because you want to see them. But it would be good to let the adoptive parents know how interested you are. Let them know you would love to know more and would welcome the chance to have any contact they see fit with your sisters. Don’t push it. Adoptive parents may be wary of the biological family – with good cause. They will have worked hard at helping your sisters to settle in their new life. The last thing they want is someone coming along and messing it all up. So you need to make sure they never see any reason to suspect you might be a trouble maker. Be patient. Once they realise you genuinely want what is best for your sisters, I am sure they would be happy to let you have some contact. But you may have to wait a few years. Make any trouble – even once – and they will never trust you. After all, it is your family their darling daughters were taken away from.
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I was adopted and now I Foster children and if depends what yours sisters now about you if they know you. You could get there number but don’t push it to much being fostered can be hard . Start with lottle things like sending them birthday cards call there mum and dad and just talk to them ask them if you can speak to them or right to them or send them cards or see them but its quite a long process you might have to go through social workers and things you have to keep at it
Aww man that’s really sad 🙁 yeah go see a solicitor they could help you
if I were you I would see a solicitor and take it from there
good luck