My wife cheated on me. what should i do?

you get a divorce.

Follow your heart

I hate to say this, but are you sure YOU have a 14 month old daughter?

I think you should be there for your daughter, like don’t get deployed, if you get killed, she doesn’t have that male influence in her life. She needs you, and I would stay for your daughter.

But you couldn’t depend on your wife, so don’t be there for her to depend on her, that is very messed up man. I feel for you bad because I would not ever want that to happen to me, but personally I wouldn’t stay with her.

You have to have respect for yourself man, you don’t have to be there for your wife to be there for your daughter.

Move your family to a base somewhere away from the man that is recking your marriage.

Don’t go. Stay so you can see these years with your daughter. Honestly, I would tough it out until you started thinking about killing your wife! lol. Only because you will miss soo much with your daughter if you don’t. Forget about the wife, you can put her on the backburner to get cold anyway. Good luck and god bless.

you get a divorce.

try and work things out for your daughter I know its hard and trust takes a long time to get back don’t leave if you can’t forgive stay close to home for your daughter

Going to Iraq will most likely mean that your wife will continue to cheat on you as you are gone. This will increase the chances of your separation when you return, or even sooner. If your wife forgived and you believe she was honest about it, you should give her one more and final chance.. as everyone deserves a second chance. But you and only you could determine whether a chance is worth giving or not. Make sure you do not risk that you lose your daughter. She may call someone else dad someday and you will hate it. If you see no love in your relationship anymore, no passion.. its not worth it. If you still love her and believe that she is able to love you too and spend the rest of time with you.. it is. Hope you make the best choice and even if you don’t… its never the worst until there are no options left.

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Get a divorce and get joint custody, so you have rights to see your daughter, remember once a cheater always a cheater, she did it to you once and she wil doing it again, sorry but it’s true. Good luck!

i would give it time and if u already have say 5 months then leave her but keep being a good dad. you can still be a good dad w/o living in your marriage

Your daughter needs to be your priority right now. I don’t think you should stay with your wife because of your daughter, but you need to make sure your decisions are with your daughter’s best interests in mind and not your own. Don’t just run away from the problem because it will make things much worse. The answer of whether or not you and your wife can reconcile depends on whether your wife is sorry she got caught or genuinely sorry for her actions. Does she understand what her actions meant to you? What was her motivation for cheating? Has anything significant changed that if circumstances were similar it would happen again? What is it she was missing that made her stray? Really listen to what she has to say and hear whatever pain she is trying to express, even if it is a case where the truth hurts. I am not excusing her actions, but many times people run from this problem without overturning every stone. What is keeping you from forgiving her? Trust is difficult to rebuild, but not impossible. Counseling can be a great communication tool to help you rebuild the trust.

If you can let the fact that she cheated go, then you should stay with her and see if you two can work out your marriage. If you feel like she betrayed you so much you can’t even look at her and you can not for give her then you should deploy and end the marriage. You do not have to stay with her just because of your child together. You can still be a loving father. If you choose to stay in your relationship with your wife and she cheats again then I think that is a sign that she is not committed to you guys relationship. If you stay with her and she stays faithful but you keep bringing up her cheating on you then she might get tired of that and eventually leave you. I hope that helped you a little.

First of all Greg, Thank you for your service. Secondly, you need to resolve this issue before you even consider deployment. It will do you and your daughter no good if you are over there in a hostile situation and your head is not in the game. You need to keep trying to forgive your wife. Remember, forgiveness is for your benefit not hers. You will never forget what she did but forgiveness in your heart and mind will help you get your life on track eventually. By forgiving her, it does not mean that your okay with it and all is forgotten and she has a clean slate and is absolved of the wrong doing. When you forgive her it is so you can let go of part of it and move on. If she feels guilty it will be up to her to deal with that part. Also, if you do forgive her, it frees you up so you can raise and interact with your daughter better. Nothing worse than you harboring anger, jealousy and pain while trying to raise your child, They pick up on that real quick and no matter what, your wife is still her mother. I know from personal experience how it really mess’s with a child when the aggrieved parent keeps bringing up the hurt and anger they feel for the other by not forgiving. Besides, if you do forgive and move on, your wife will have a hard time because she is expecting you to rant and rave at her for her unfaithfulness. It makes it hard for those who are trying to forgive themselves when the person they hurt is calm and at peace and just goes on. They want a reason to not face forgiving themselves and spouses who don’t forgive and go on angry and mad, they don’t have to.

how long ago was this? you can forgive her, and try to move on, and eventually it won’t be on your mind every day, BUT you will have days where it is. This is one of those things you will never forget, and you have to ask YOURSELF one thing, is she worth it? I’m not talking about your daughter, you can move on and find someone who treats you right, and you’re daughter can see what a happy married couple is like. I mean is your wife worth it? Are you willing to be haunted by this for the remainder of your life? If not you need to speak to an attorney before she does about your exit strategy-

hope I helped!

if its inside of her to cheat, its going to happen no matter what you do,
but it all depends, did she confront you or did you bust her,
if it was once and she confronted you, then maybe yeah i would think of reconciling.
but i think going to iraq could just make things worse, its like your running away from your resonsibility, meaning your child.
even if you dont want to be with your wife, at least have a heart and support your daughter, every girl needs a father figure in there life, and if your going to be iraq, your going to be wondering whats happening to your baby, is she getting looked after, is there food on her tummy, and who is with your ex wife, is your baby calling him daddy. big descision have a good think before you do anything, good luck

Give her my number.

Shes probably not sorry enough if she said that she did it to piss you off.