He said “If you love me you’ll be a housewife.”
My mother said “Why would you want to work?”
Work? Holy crap, cooking and cleaning isn’t work? God knows it’s not fun!
So- I shot back “If you LOVE me, you’ll be a househusband” and he just laughed. I can get a better job than he can, (hospital work)…so why in the world do I have to conceed to be a housewife?
What do you think?
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Its crucial for you to have a career because this is a matter of independece and yes even though you’re a married woman, you are capable of so much more.
Do this for yourself, if he loves you, he’ll stick by your decision.
I’m a housewife and it blows. I can’t find a job to save my own life.
You will feel lost, disconnected and much like a child because lets face it, he’ll be making all the money and you’ll need his permission to spend it.
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Taking care of a home is pretty trivial work.
Machines do all the hard stuff these days.
You are your own boss on your own time.
But unless *you want* to stay home to take care of the kids, it’s time to make a chore chart.
Check out the section in the book in the source about it.
Sorry but you sound lazy to me.
Cooking is work? Really, if you were single you would never cook?
You’d just eat junk food and garbage all the time?
Also, there is more to maintaining a home that what happens in the kitchen. Don’t be duped into thinking it’s somehow demeaning to feed yourself and ones you love.
Cleaning gutters, scrubbing the toilet, taking out the trash, and mowing the lawn could just an easily be deemed “demeaning” work but someone still has to do it.
You are so distorted right now that you actually think cooking food less fun than emptying bed pans?
Even if you’re not a SAHM you still need to eat.
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Ok, with men that have old-fashioned morals, they want their women to be housewives because it makes them feel like a good provider. if he can work hard enough and make enough money so that is wife does not have to work, it prooves he is doing what a man should do.
theres nothing wrong with him wanting this for you. its actually sweet. he wants to take care of you. its the way things used to be not so long ago.
i hope this isnt something that gets you mad…..
if you really want to work, just talk to your hubby about it. tell him about all the extra things you could do with the extra money, like getting that sports package on tv, or being able to afford to go to his see his fav football team….
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i’m currently a housewife, with 2 kids. and fyi, i dont have to ask my husband before i spend any money. we’re married, and he trusts my decisions.
If you have children, he just wants whats best for them. He may not want to put the stress of providing for the family on your shoulders. I’ve never known a woman whole was the bread winner happy about it in the long term. He is just traditional. Try staying at home. Hire a house-cleaner once a week. Pamper yourself. He just wants a queen, or at least someone who will dote upon him.
If you have children, they will turn out A LOT better if one of you stays at home. Just view the job as training a good citizen/person.
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stay at home slave/mom of 4 boys.
You should do what’s best for your family. If you both want one of you to stay home with the kids, then the most logical answer would be for you to work since you could provide more financially for the family. If it make neither of you happy to stay at home, then neither of you should. You have to make you happy to make someone else happy.
I think that if you want to work, then you should. If he wants to work, then he should.
EDIT: I am a housewife, and I do not feel disconnected AT ALL. I do not ask my husband’s permission to spend money, and for me, life is GREAT.
I think your mother should keep her two cents to herself.
So if one of you have to be home i take it u av cild or children ???
There is no reason why you both cant work but it wood need back up for siblins ie crech,child minder ,mother ? But do bear in mind if you do this the cookin an cleanin is still gonna be there when you get home ???
Why do you have to be a housewife? Any person that says “if you love me you would…” needs to grow up. Loving someone should not be about control and that is what is he using it for. I did not give in when my husband wanted me to stay at home and now he is glad.
If you want to work it’s your choice. He should want to do whatever makes you happy, and if staying at home isn’t it, you can hire a sitter and a maid with your fat paycheck.
I think this should have been discussed before you became a wife. Tell him that you are working, and if he wants someone to stay home he is welcome to volunteer.
Both work and share the house load 50% 50%, works in my house hold. God did not create me to sit at home all day.
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Seek the employment you desire….
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Why does someone have to stay at home? Do you have kids you want to be home with?
compromise…
why can’t you both work?