…how can a woman know if she looks good enough to keep him or if she is just good enough for the time being?
Does him being initially interested mean that your looks (barring that you “let yourself go”) are attractive enough for him to consider the rest of your qualities? Or are guys pretty much always on the scout for the best looking females they think they can attain, and then choose between these based on the other traits?
Update:
I’m not judging guys for choosing looks as #1 factor in a partner, I’m referencing other questions in which many men said that looks are the first priority.
Update 2:
Well, you nailed it! I am not all that attractive and I can admit that … so I’m essentially trying to figure out how to not waste my time. 🙂
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Of course he is initially interested because of your looks. I don’t think any guy walks up to an ugly looking girl thinking “Man, I bet she has a great personality.”
Looks come first when you first meet someone (except for on-line dating), it’s your personality and confidence that will hold ’em forever.
I don’t think I would be able to stay in a relationship where their was only physical attraction.
I think that although looks are a factor in the initial attraction, that’s not what keeps a man. I like to think of myself as ok looking, you know? Not a supermodel or anything, but interesting. My current bf (going on a year!) dated some truly beautiful women before me. As a matter of fact, that WAS his criteria! However, with me he found something completly different. I believe it is the person you ARE and not what you look like that will KEEP a man. It’s the same for us, right? You have to have that initial attraction, but that’s not gonna keep you around if there is no substance. Good Luck Hon!
I would say that looks is #1 for GUYS.
For men – attitude, confidence, and personality are way more important.
Even not especially attractive people can be attractive by taking basic care of themselves and putting in a little effort, and by conveying the right attitude.
Honest.
From speaking to my male friends, the general consensus is that if the man is looking for a sexual relationship, with no deep emotional involvement, then what you said about looks holds true; however, if the man is looking for a deep emotional relationship, then love makes anyone sexy, regardless of looks. Also, the more immature the male (not the male’s age), the more he tends to value looks in a female.
Source(s): unscientific polling of my office
While guys may use looks as a primary factor in choosing a dating partner, it is not the only tool in their chest. (No double meaning intended.)
If a guy asks you out, he knows what you look like. If he continues to ask you out, he still knows what you look like. And he has decided that your looks are acceptable to you.
That said…do not allow yourself to be treated like a second class citizen because you are not that attractive. Your looks are only your outside shell. There is more to you than looks alone. If you expect to be treated well and with respect, you will be treated well and with respect.
Looks had nothing to do with it with me.
Her looks could stop a school bus and send the kids screaming out the rear Emergency Exit like flak through a goose…
You throw the dices you take your chances. Which cad said you were not attractive , it could not have been a gentleman…
Source(s): Common sense…
You must be ugly because you are worrying an awful lot about looks and landing/keeping a guy.
This crap NEVER even occured to me!
LOL!
Source(s): ADD ON- read though some of these other people’s answers they are right. A man that truly loves see above just LOOKS even though that is what initially attracts people……Looks may get you in the door, you it is your heart that keeps you in the room!