So me and my now ex husband came to an agreement on custody with our 2 year old son due to the fact neither one of us has the money to go to court for custody… he was supposed to get him every wednesday and every other weekend.. well he has this girlfriend who is now pregnant.. and i dont know her at all.. and he wants me to let my son stay with her while he is at work all day on the weekends he has out son.. and i dont feel comfortable with that.. and he is also on probation and he is supposed to be staying with his grand father but he stays with this girl and her other son… do I have to let her keep him even if we dont have anything in writing.. or can i stop that.. I am to the point of getting a lawyer anyway cause me and her and me and him have gotten in to many fights already cause he lies all the time….
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not having anything in writeing is dangerous. it’s a two way street. at any time you can legally stop the visitation and not let him see his son unless and until he can produce a court order to give the police, BUT guess what? he could do the same to you any one of these weekends or even pick him up from school any day and just not return him. the police will not remove him from his father’s custody for you until you get a court order. so don’t start playing games like this.
go to your court house and ask about a self-help center or court facilitator to help you fill out all your papers and go through the process as cheaply as possible (maybe free if you are low income), they can at least sell you a packet of the forms you will need for cheap. you can also go online in many places to find info on what you need to do.
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So what would he do with your son on those weekends he’s meant to have him if he’s working anyway?!
The whole point of having him is to spend time with him rather than going off to work
Simple case of be around for your son or arrange a different weekend when he’s not working for your son to stay with him
Its great youve had an arrangement so far but as this woman sounds like she’s going to be part of your ex’s life and therefore your sons life I suggest you have a get together to get to know each other. Being grown up and communicating rather than slamming down the barriers is what’s needed here. It’ll make you feel better knowing this other woman and will also look good from your perspective should this end up a court custody battle.
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Not at all hes ur son and u dnt know this woman id tell him if he wants to have him on his days he needs to b there n if hes in probation it will more then likely go in ur favor rather then his
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