My g.friend and I been together for the last 6 months, and she is in process of getting divorce. She was a separated a woman when I met, has no child, and 1 year younger than me. But I’m a single, never married. In the first, we started as a friend, and right now we’re really in love. I really liked her a lot, and so she does. But unfortunately, I’m an old fashion guy, and always think singles should go with singles and divorcees with divorcees. So her past marriage may make me feel miserable later in my life. I’m so happy right now with her, but whenever this thought comes to my mind I’m feeling I’m doing something wrong to her as well such as giving false hope. She asked me if her past marriage is ok with me, I said I just need time to make that decision. I tried couple times to break with her, all failed. Should I just let her go right now, or wait and see if I will be ok?
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I think you need to first ask yourself why this is such a big deal to you. If you love her that much, why should it matter if she has been married before? But on the other hand if you are willing to let her go because of your beliefs, then you must not love her as much as you thought you did.
Being an old fashion doesn’t mean that you can not be with someone who was previously married. That is CRAP!!! You love each other, so what is the problem? I am sorry, but they sound like excuses. My aunt was married to her second husband for 20 years before she passed, he had never been married or had children. 20 years and 6 girls later…..
the point is don’t let that stop you from being together and being happy. In 20 years, do want to think back and say, if only I had….no matter who you are with you will be wondering. I think you will be okay. I could understand the hesitation if she had children. Since she doesn’t, there are no ties to her ex-husband. If you don’t take the chance for love- what do you take it for?
If you’re not happy or able to accept her past then let her go. She needs to find someone who can love her without judgment. She doesn’t need to go through life feeling like she was never “quite good enough” for you.