well i had a lung transplant 3 months ago and my family has not once came to see me my mother has called me twice im 24 years old and before the transplant i lived with my girlfriend who has helped me out more than il ever be able to repay her shes amazing but every time id try and talk to my family before when i was sick they just always give me the cold shoulder say they where just to busy to visit or to busy to help like iv never asked for anything of them but iv also never done anything wrong to them my father died when i was 13 and i moved out into my uncles house and he let me stay their till i graduated school and it seems like everyone else hates me for it i have two brothers one older one younger and a older sister it just really seems like they don’t care iv called all of them and i try and talk to them they just go oh ya oh ya cool and it gets old trying its just stressful for me and im getting to the point where they don’t want to be in my life then don’t have to be at all my gfs family is more my family then my own blood and it hurts it seems like its not fair and its going to be something they will regret once i leave and its not like i live far im only a couple hour drive from where they live i just have to be close to doctors. i just know if it was someone i cared about being on a deathbed to a surgery that has a 50% chance of waking up from id be by their side and if i couldn’t be i sure and the hell would call to let them know why i just want someone Else’s opinion
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aww I care! I wouldn’t change your number and never speak to them again, they’re still your family whether you like it or not. What they did is really terrible. If my sister had to have surgery, I would be there in a heartbeat. Think about it like this: Sometimes when you lose connection with someone (even family) it becomes really hard to be there for them in their time of need. It’s not because you don’t love the person, its because you dont know how to act or what to do.
My sister recently got married and she stopped talking to my entire family for a month because she felt like we werent being there for her. The truth is, we weren’t that close before the wedding so it was difficult to know how to act or what to do.
That being said, I still think theres no excuse for how they treated you, but dont make yourself miserable and stressed about it. Live your life and concentrate on taking care of yourself. Your girlfriend and her family obviously care about you a lot and at least you’re not alone. Just let what your family did (or didn’t do) go because it will only make you crazy. Maybe the best thing to do is just tell them how you feel to give you some peace of mind and then just step back and let them come to you. If they come to you then thats great and if they don’t its their loss. You sound like an amazing person and I’m glad you survived. Life is short, don’t get caught up in things that bring you down.
It would seem to me that they are not being fair. Sometimes though, they may have to take care of the other siblings at home and work too. I understand where you are coming from. I was in intensive care for a week, and my parents only came a couple of times. My sister came a lot. Everyone was concerned, but at the same time I don’t agree with how they have treated you or talked to you. I would try and let it go. You have a good friend…maybe you can move out on your own with her/her family. Good Luck.
Source(s): What I would do. I was really hurt and upset myself when my parents didn’t come and they only have me and my sister. I know parents have lives, but that is no excuse. You make time for all siblings. All the best to you whatever you decide to do. I hope your lung transplant is a major good success. Stay healthy.
Ok, I am going to give you my impression of your story. It seems like to me, they all got mad at you for “abandoning” them when you moved in with your uncle. I am guessing they feel like you turned your back on them in a time of great need and that you bailed on them. I think they are still angry at you for that and their way of showing it is to treat you the way they are treating you. That’s just what I think when I read your story is the only thing that makes any sense. I may be wrong, and I may be right. Ponder your situation in the light of my suggestion and decide if this may be the problem. Good luck, and while you are at it, learn to use capital letters and punctuation. Reading your stuff without that makes people think you are an idiot. Just saying.
Sometimes family will be the last people to count on in time of need, and it can huurt like hell, i apologize that you feel alone and isloated, by the way i wish you the best on your health hun, alot of use take it for granted, so please first take care of yourself okay?, please make sure you dnt forget who makes you, which is god, start with him, i swear, it sounds like im a bible salesman, but talk and pray to him everyday, i have family that doesnt give 2 bumpps about me, they pretend, but i know something doesnt add up, when i really need them they fail to succeed, so dnt hold them at fault know they are missing out on your precious life, and id say let them be, god will seek the battle for you, allow them to wonder, and make them want to be apart of your life, you have done what you could, dnt stress yourself hun, life is too short you have to live it long okay, please pray, and get well, dnt stress, its all worked out
Thats a real problem you have there. but understanding people is very weird sumtimes. it isnt always necessary tat blood relation always ll look aft u anytime. in ue case a person hu is not related but loves u actually takes care of u. this may painfull but in my view, u should focus more on de people who care for you genuinely and be with dem and care for dem coz dey cared for you… sometimes strangers care 🙂
Be the bigger and better person; i know it hurts that they are not reaching out to you. But if they don’t want to be in your life that is their lost. by being the bigger & better person i mean by still calling them to check on them and call on holiday even if they won’t show love back, at least you will be doing your part and will be blessed.
“Family isn’t always blood. It’s the people in your life who want
you in theirs; the ones who accept you for who you are. The
ones who stick with you through the hard times, would do
anything to see you smile, and who love you no matter what”
Source(s): Me 🙂
i think you should visit them. try to become a family again. talk about why they dont call or talk anymore. visit them frequently as long as there are doctors nearby and by them gifts and kiss up to them. you shouldnt give up on family.
call themm again and tell them exactly what you said here and dont be afraid to cry or show emotion!